Please Mom, get a little sleep tonight...The chances that your daughter has breast cancer are very, very slim!! My guess would be that is is associated with her hormones as she enters puberty. Besides her age being in her favor, it is rather unusual for pain to be associated with BC.
Now, I am not saying there is no possibility it is cancer. However, I would advise that as much as is possible you put it on a back burner for tonight. We often waste perfectly good worrying, and then don't have enough when we really need to do so!!
Take several good deep breaths...breathe out slowly...take in another slow, deep breath...release...Use this for tonight to help calm your nerves.
Please know that our good thoughts and vibes are with you both. Let us know when we can celebrate the all-clear along with you. OK?
Dear Boogie, Please know that we can well appreciate the stress you are going thru...All of us have had similar experiences...It is nothing we would ever wish for another.
And your confusion is more than understandable!! Limbo is a crummy neighborhood, and one should never stay there too long! You deserve more information! You deserve someone (read "doctor") to sit down with you and clarify every thing that is going thru your head. You can only function with full knowledge...That is necessary for you now and in the future if you have to make any important health decisions.
May I remind you of one very important thing: YOU ARE PAYING YOUR MEDICAL TEAM! THEY WORK FOR YOU!!!! If the physician you are working with now refuses you the time and the information, switch doctors!!
Six months of not-knowing is unacceptable!! Please remember always the squeeky wheel...It got the attention not the quiet one!!
Feel free to come back and let us know how things are going..I am sending tons of good thoughts that you soon will get answers and that your tension will lessen considerably!
I am beginning to believe that more meds than imagined can result in muscle cramps...And not just "Charley Horses", but every and any muscles we have! I get ankle cramps and toe cramps and dreadful stitches along my rib cage...all over, in other words!
And this is not due to an antihormone med in my case. (Tho' I do get stitches and uncomfortable pains in the ribs below the breast I had rads). This, for me is due to one of the breathing meds I am on...They have switched to all different ones and every one does this! (Theinstert says this is uncommon tho' it does occur. Both my Primary doc and my pulmonologist had "never heard of this"...Odd , as I know many folks who have this ind of issue with different drugs!!! Of course, when I recently asked my pulmonologist if he had ever reported it to the pharma company, he said no. Perhaps no one is "sharing"????!!! Arrggh!)
One thing that someone suggested to me and seems to aid a bit is a vitamin which contains calcium, magnesium and vit D. Might want to give it a try.
Let us know how you are doing. (Sure hope you don't turn into that dreaded roach!! )
Oh, Jenna! It breaks my heart to hear another of our members speak of the loss we, as a community, have suffered through the neglect and disregard of WebMD!! I can fully appreciate how you feel...And so can the all too many former members who finally just gave up that there would ever be a return to what we once shared through our F2F group!
However, please continue to pop in from time to time to see if there is someone as in need as so many of us were when we came to WebMD and found support and answers and even laughter! I hate the idea that anyone is just hanging out with no one responding or offering a hand to hold! If some of the oldies such as you and I (I being MUCH more "oldie"!!) check in and when needed assist these newbies, there may yet be a few folks occasionally less stressed. It's all we can do!
Blessings to you, and may whatever path you take be one of joy and good health!!
Cindy, I am sorry that you are dealing with these concerns. Your family history probably is adding to your fears and that is to be expected. However, even though it might increase your odds, it is nowhere near a probability!
You don't say why you had the hysterectomy...Was it cancer related? If not, do you feel it might somehow be playing a role in whatever else is happening now?
I am glad you are having that mammogram. Pain is our body telling us we need to check it out, and letting it go or trying to hide your head in the sand never does work well. The sooner you know, the sooner you can either address any kind of health issue or, most hopefully, you can stop worrying and get back to enjoying life!!
We are not doctors so cannot really offer much advice as to what might be expected. However, I can tell you that 80% of lumps prove to be benign. Hold onto that until Friday, ok???
Meanwhile know you will be in our thoughts. Please come back and tell us how you are doing.
Dear NaLuk, Kiddo, you have far to much on your plate and insist on piling on more! It appears, too, that much of your concerns/fears for those you love are ones that YOU may be feeling as much or more than they!
(Empathy is one of the most blessed and admirable traits a human can have, but sometimes we impose OUR feelings on others, assuming that since it is this important to us, it must be equally important to them! I say that because I, too, tend to do this often, only to realize that in doing so I may not only be missing what truly IS important to them, but may be avoiding a personal encounter with these issues!
(For instance, over the years I have asked my daughter who lives a great distance from us, to please, please send us photos as we miss seeing our grandchildren. I knew she must appreciate how we feel! However, it has fallen on deaf ears as she does not value photographs or what they represent! By continuing to beg, it results in total frustration for me and an annoyance for her!
(Sometimes, difficult as it may be, one must resign themselves to the fact that as all snowflakes differ one from the other, so, too, do humans!)
As I understand it, you have been and are loved by your ex-husband, right? And you both care deeply for your children? With your help, you have established a good relationship between him and your children? (Thus far, those are all quite positive...!)
You have a boyfriend whom you love, but who appears not to love you? (I use the word "appears" as he is dealing with his own health and mortality...Lost in that kind of fog, each individual will most likely react differently...Some are so absorbed in their own fears, there is little room to focus on another. Please do not loose sight of that possibility!!)
As you cannot control his relationship with you, for the love of God (quite literally!!), how can you expect to deal with his relationship with the Almighty???? Sorry to say, but preaching over and over about YOUR relationship with God, may not only be unconvincing to him, it may also drive him further from where you are aiming!
Do as you wish to support him (or not)...That is your choice...Just don't deny him his choices as well!!
As for your kids, I am sorry to say that some individuals are very "near" sighted...seeing only themselves no matter how hard a mother or anyone might wish them to be different. The "ME" Generation is pervasive and sadly does not seem to choose to change! Of course, you continue to love them (tho' at times it must be more than difficult!!). However, they are like a black hole...The love flows from you to them, but it is only absorbed and is NEVER reflected back!
As with your boyfriend, what you wish to do in regard to them is up to you, but please stop expecting anything from them...YES!!! HOPE!!! But to expect is to open your heart to more pain, and you have had quite enough!!
"I'm a little bit scared..." Gal, if you weren't, I'd know you must be nuts!!!!! Of course you are..and confused...and lost...and very lonely...That list is endless, I am sure!!! If in the past you have not focused on your needs, there is no better time than right now!!
Make sure that you have not only the best health care/medical team you can find, but also seek a support group. (Having us or anyone online is fine, but you also need someone right beside you who can touch your hand and give you a hug when needed!!) You seem to find great comfort in religion...Find a religious leader or church or group where you can feel God's love and help. If there is any activity from a card club to a readers group to simply sitting in the sun and feeling alive that brings you comfort, do that NOW!!!!!
"Selfish"?? NO!!!!!! It's called loving yourself , and it's about time. DO NOT WASTE TIME ON PITY PARTIES FOR YOU OR FOR ANYONE!!!