Forget the "big baby" tag! As my husband told me when I had discomfort post-surgery: "You were stabbed!!" (Sometimes it helps to be reminded that what we went thru was not a splinter removal!!)
That being said, please let you doctor know your situation! Pain is the body's way of letting us know to pay attention. If you were told it would only be a few days and it has exceeded that time AND you are alone in tending to your home and children, make your medical team aware of it.
(I do recall that post-surgery the hospital gave me a long line bra to wear for several days...Perhaps something as simple as this might offer some ease?)
Also, don't be Wonder Woman...If you need some help, ask friends and family. Ask your church. ASK!!
Know you will be in our thoughts, and come back to let us know how you are doing.
I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this situation. All of us who have been there/done that fully appreciate what a challenge and more it is...Combine it with the "happy season" and it sucks big time!!
Depressed? Of course!!! Only if you were living in some altered reality could you fail to not feel so!
All that being said, might I offer one simple bit of advice which for most of us has proved one of the best approaches when our world tends to spin off its axis? BREATHE! In all the stress and chaos we sometimes forget to take a moment to simply breathe....So, right now, please, breathe in slowly and deeply...and now breath out slowly...Again, in slowly...out slowly. Repeat this whenever you feel the tension building up. It is a treatment which is always available, non-addictive and effective!
Yes, you have been thrust into a new world with a whole new vocabulary and in which you are expected to gain a medical degree in a few days! It can be nothing short of overwhelming!
The better educated you are, the more effective advocate you can be for yourself. There will be choices and decisions you will need to make, and for that it is necessary that you do your research. However, limit it to reliable sites. Too many snake oil salesmen haunt the web! And try to know exactly what your personal journey involves: An onslaught of too many terms and treatments which may in no way involve the cancer you are facing will only serve to complicate and confuse. Try to make sure you have a firm handle on what your diagnosis is and research only those areas.
Bring someone with you to all appointments (or a recorder). It is amazing how fear can cause a dreadful case of deafness or dementia when we need to recall what was said! Another pair of ears is vital!
You are still in the testing stage so you do not have a good hold on what you will be facing as yet. Please know that you will be in our thoughts. Come back and keep us updated on how you are doing. Feel free to ask questions and we will share our own experiences. And feel more than free to vent and cry and scream...We've all been thru times when just releasing our emotions and sharing them with others who understand makes a big difference!
In the meantime, please check our both the "Tips" and the "Resources" listed on the right side of this page. They may help you over some of the bumps.
Mark, I can only imagine how difficult this time must be for you, my Friend! Please know that my prayers for both of you continue...May you find the strength that this will demand and the comfort that friends and family can offer.
Aw, Lisa, I am so very sorry to learn of this latest setback! Your taking it day by day is perhaps the best approach, but I cannot imagine both the physical and the emotional drain this is on you. I do hope you have a strong support system around you now and always.
Please keep us updated on how you are doing. And know you will be in my prayers and in my heart.
Danish Girl, I am sorry to hear of your recent new diagnosis, but do have to commend you not only for sharing your journey and encouraging others, but for your attitude! We all learn over time that how we react to a situation can make a great deal of difference not only in our healing process but in our quality of life...You exemplify that to the max!
May you continue to not only be optimistic, but have reason upon reason to do so!! You are in my thoughts and in my heart!
Mark, it is good to see you again, but so very sorry about what you both are going thru. Seems like sometimes you can't stay one step ahead of challenges. I am just glad, as before, your BW has you by her side. Please keep us updated when you can.
The not-knowing is often the worst part! So, until you are seen by a doctor, please take a deep breath, slowly in and slowly out, until things begin to slow down to a more manageable pace.
A bump/lump can be caused by a great number of things, but we tend to immediately leap to cancer...Its perfectly normal to envision the worst-case scenario, but the worry only makes things much worse. I have found that borrowing trouble is never a good idea: Trouble tend to fins us without us drawing a target on our backs!
Good news? 80% of lumps prove to NOT be cancer!! Now, if you were in Vegas, you'd consider those pretty good odds, right? Cling to that until you hear differently, okay?!
Please let us know how your appointment goes, and what the doctor says. Come here often for information, support and tons of folks who have been there/done that and will understand. Meanwhile, please know you are in our thoughts and hearts! Though having a small one who needs you is bound to increase your worry, just having the little one there to hug everytime you need it, is also a definite plus!