Two years after being diagnosed with breast cancer, 70% of cancer survivors reported having problems related to sexual function............!!!!!! Does this sound familiar? You're are definitely NOT alone!! If feeling this way must be accompanied by guilt, then we'd better start taking numbers as our line is going to be more than a mite lengthy! No!!! Many of us feel cheated! Many of us feel that we barely have one thing done to us when another is demanded. One med to cure one thing before another med is added to reduce the effects of the first!
In a world that considers only the beautiful, the wealthy, the important to be acceptable, being less in any of those areas certainly seems to exclude the majority of us!
A critical health issue can certainly deplete your energy as well as your spirit; to retain a strong self-image in such circumstances is asking a great deal...if not the impossible! SO.......
GO AHEAD AND CRY AND VENT AND HAVE PITY PARTIES!!!! YOU HAVE MORE THAN EARNED EACH!!!!!
(You might want totake a look at another WebMD article while you are preparting for your next pity party. It is entitled "Sex Complaints Common After Breast Cancer" Type it into the main search box at the top. In it they state: "Sexual problems are among the most common and least talked about side effects of breast cancer treatment"!!!!!! So, if no one is talking about what almost everyone is experiencing, no wonder we feel alone and even more odd and ugly??!! Hells Bells, we are the only ones at the ball without a pretty gown, and even if no one else knows it, we sure do!!! )
One of the biggest supports some of us have discovered is our partner's reaction to the "new" us! They are often the mirrors by which we judge our worth. (NO! It should NOT lay within the power of another person, and if we are really strong people, it won't. However, I must plead that I am not among those who can rely on their inner mirror...The one I look into has been my DH for over 46 years. His affirmation is very important to me. Now, if it weren't there, what would I do? That I can't answer except to say that I hope I would be resiliant enough, strong enough to feel the security that I glean from his eyes. But, truly I can't say!)
You don't tell us if you have a partner or how old you are ...In each stage of our lives we face different challenges. Some more difficult than others. But, nonetheless, difficult! Please let us know just what stage you are in, and perhaps we can offer some more specific suggestions to help you get beyond this painful period?
I recall one of our very special members once broke the word "Intimacy" into "In To Me See"...Looking inside the one you love, past the exterior. (This applies whether it is our partner or ourselves who is looking.)
Another member speaking of the changes that breast cancer has made in her life wrote: "Me? No boobs. Complete hysterectomy. Scars out the wazoo. A freakish tan from radiation and bad hair cause of the chemo, not to mention, I look 20 years older than I am. Hard to believe last year I was running marathons!"
She, however, went on to write: "...but (now) the colors of my fabric are so much richer. So much more authentic."
None of us can really "get over" this journey...The only way is to "go through it"! And when we get to the other side, we deserve to have time to acclimate ourselves to all we have been though, applaud our courage and strength, and use any and all help ...Be it through breast cancer survivor programs like ACS TLC assistance or therapy, use of medication to help us thru the most difficult paths or a group like this to hold our hand and let us know we are not alone.!!
Please come here often and let us help support you. We are open 24/7 just for one another. Hope to see you again soon!
I am a little puzzled by this post. (When I went to the site you gave, I could find no mention of microcacifications...Perhaps I didn't read closely enough?)
The statement "They do not harm" seems odd. And the later in the post you say "The intention of removing tissue by means of this method is not to get rid of all of the microcalcifications but to obtain a representative sampling accordingly a diagnosis could be completed." I don't think you mean that they are nothing to be concerned about, do you? Or that they shouldn't be removed except for the sampling in the biopsy? DCIS is soemthing which must be addressed and dealt with. A biopsy alone is not the answer. Please correct me if I have not understood your post.