Thank you all so very--very much. All of your support means so much to me.
Yes, everytime I turn around I am amazed at my awesome Mother. She was so organized. Blows my mind away!!!!
Now I can understand better how frustrated she was in not remembering things. In her file cabinet she has lists upon lists of which kid got which item when she had all of us come up and pick out what we wanted of her things. This was about a year before she sold her house. She wrote down on these lists just what we all took. It did make her so happy to see us get her antiques and she has a story about each item. Who gave her what--what year---what was the occasion.
Then when she got ready for her estate sale, she seperated all the things my brother, me and the 5 grand-kids had given her thru the years. Put them all in seperate boxes with our names on it and gave them all back to us. At the time, I was pretty angry cause I thought "Mom, why don't you want these things anymore!" Never realizing how she has simplified my life now. There will be not confrontation on who gets what cause it has all been done years ago. She did keep a few things but she did amazing down-sizing. This was the way she lived her life---Organized to the Max.
Now of course, by her doing all of this so many years ahead of time, it is not going to be any problem for me.
What a Woman!!!
Just remember she did all this on her own. At the time I was going thru chemo and radiation treatments in 2006. I was able to go up to Burlington to help with her estate/garage sale but that was all I did.
Yes, Roberta, I will look for the Bingo jar of quarters. What a hoot!!! There are more and more stories to tell. No telling what I will find but all in good time. Right now the Assisted living place is in quarantee due to this flu. Over half of the residents have it. It is major in Western Wa.
Thanks Shell, Yep, that was just Her. Organized to the max. Now I understand a little better how frustrated she was to lose her memory so bad. Had to be so horrible for her as she was a planner and organizer.
Oh Rachael, You have no idea what a "Final" word she had. LOL. I just got off the phone to the Furneral Home. Can you believe it she even had her casket picked out. OMG. When he told me that I just started laughing. I couldn't help myself. That was the one thing I couldn't figure out how to do by email or Fax. LOL.
He said a lot of people come in and state but Mom or Dad had made all the arrangements just to find out all they had done was do the info for the death certificate and nothing else. He said "Then there was your Mother!!!" She had been in there numerous times to up-date information as her chosen pall-bearers kept going before her. So she would give him other names.
She was definitely a Hoot!!! What a Woman.
He said the last time she was in was about 2001. Then he said he knew she had moved down to Centralia. He didn't say just what year she had started all of this.
When I talked to my ex-daughter-in-law yesterday she asked me why my Mom hadn't put the grand-sons on as pall-bearers. I was laughing so hard when I told Terri, I didn't think the boys were even born when Mom started her planning. Then we both were laughing so hard. Today they are 20 and 22. Isn't that just the funniest thing ever!!!
Every time I turn around this is done or that is done.
This should be one of our New Year's resolutions. Plan what we want so we are sure to get it.
Oh Oh, Roberta, I forgot about the jar of quarters!!!! Thanks so much for reminding me. I am not sure what all I will find tucked away safe and sound. LOL. She certainly was a character.
Be very careful of this new type of flu going around. It is not the flu you get the shot for but a different strain. Colonial (assisted living place) now has 1/2 of their residents coming out of it and some getting it. All our hospitals in Western Wa are full to over-flowing. All the way from Oregon border to the Canadian border. They are restricting all visitors. Haven't closed any schools yet because of it.
So far I got it, my nephew, my daughter, my step-son all came down with it in hours from being with my Mother. I had the nurse check her for flu but it came back negative. But she had this virus stuff. It starts with aches pains, vomiting and diarrhea even before you feel sick. Mine only lasted 24 hrs but don't know yet about the others. But I came home and immediately took lommital and nausea meds as I had them available. It is very hard on the very young and elderly plus comprimised immune systems.
Might I suggest if you go out into the public wear a dang mask. Or STAY home. So far there have been 6 deaths in our State directly related to this flu. It is Nation Wide. Check out the CDC web-site and you can see the map.
Please stay safe and protect yourselves. Wash hands!!!
You are all the best. Thanks so very much for all your posts. Thanks Rachael, for letting our friends know about my Mother.
Very sad to report she passed away on Sat. Jan 5th in the hospital with her G'kids and family around her. She died the way she lived with courage and dignity. She would have celebrated her 93rd BD on Feb 14th this year. She enjoyed her life to the max. My DH and her played pool on Thanksgiving day-- again on Christmas Eve after we had taken her out to dinner. She had spent Christmas Day with us and family and really enjoyed herself.
Please do not be sad for her or I as we shared a very long happy life together. I am so thankfull she did not suffer, was in no pain, and the hospital was awesome.
Thurs night the assisted living place called me about 11 pm told me she was vomiting and diarrhea--- could I come down and sit with her as they had 10 other residents with the same thing. I thought it was the flu but after helping her back to bed my heart knew it was something pretty serious. The Day shift RN (who was my very favorite) had come in to help the staff with this crisis. Amy kept coming in and checking on us. I laid down on the bed with my Mother, talking to her and asking her if she knew who I was. at that time she said yes, my daughter. I read to her from the Bible and was just talking to her. Amy kept coming in and taking her vital signs. About 2:30 my Mother vomited pretty violently. I rang for the nurses. Amy came rushing in and accessed the situation. Called me out into the living room said very sternly to me, "Jan, I HAVE to send her to the hospital. I can not have your Mother dying of the flu" I knew both of us knew it was more than just the flu. I begged her to let me have a little more time but I knew she was right.
After they got her to the hospital did a CT scan found she had had a massive stroke and there was no hope of recovery. The ER doc was super nice. He said it could be hours or a few days. Very caring and oh so kind. The hospital was over-flowing so had to wait for a private room. Around 5 am I started calling family before most of them left for work. She was surrounded with love from her family.
Again I so rely on this board for support and I thank you all for your kindness. As my Mother lived her whole life in another town that is where her service will be a 150 miles north of here. Yesterday I went down to her apt and found in her file cabinet exactly what I was looking for. Her funeral plans.
She had her whole service planned out even to what she wants the Pastor to say. Including songs, details of who does what and etc. One think that just cracked me up was her statement.
"I request a NO drinking party!!!! If any of the survivors has a problem with this THAT is just too bad." Then she signed the paper.
Yep, that was my Mother still giving me instructions and directions from heaven!!!! Thanks, JanView Thread
He who laughs at himself--never runs out of things to laugh at!! quoted by Me.