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Your wife isn't going to die, if she's anything like me. I found a lump in my breast, and went to see my gyno, He told me that is was probably nothing but a cyst. I went to a surgeon the next day, where he did a biopsy in his office. I had stage 3 breast cancer. It took them 3days to get my results back also.
Right now, your still in shock from hearing the words,"breast cancer." That's what happened to me, then your next feelings will be to fight! She will want to fight and with God by her side, she will be able to do anything.
The 1st thing for you to do is find a good breast cancer surgeon. At his office your wife will decide on her treatment, and the surgeon will tell you the name of a oncologist and plastic surgeon. Try to find all the doctors in one group. Where they work together and stay in communication with each other. The surgeon will give you books, and give you options. You have at least 2wks. to find the doctor that you like. That's what it said in my book. It said that it might seem like you have to run out and make instant decisions. You don't, you have a couple of weeks.
I had to have chemotherapy 1st, to shrink the tumor. So when he does the surgery, it will be very small. Then I had to have a mastectomy and radiation. I am cancer free right now! Everybody's cancer is different and so the treatments will be different. You have to wait until you go see you surgeon, then he can tell you what kind she has, and what the best treatment is for her.
Try to calm down and breath, she's going to be fine. They find new cancer treatment's almost on a monthly basis. God bless you both. Your job will be to just be there for her. To constantly reassure her, and let her cry when she feels like it. My husband was my rock, and he's the reason I was able to go through everything, without falling apart.
Write us back when ever you feel like talking. Take a list of the questions that your going to want to ask the surgeon. I did, because I knew that as soon as I got there, I'd forget them all, and I did.View Thread

Before I got breast cancer, I don't think I was so positive and cheerie. It's weird, it's like I flipped out into happiness. How crazy is that?(laugh)
It was such a shock to hear the doctor say,"you have breast cancer," I went home and later that night, I felt like I was going to lose my mind completely. It was so scary, that all I could think to do, was turn everything over to God. It was either do that, or go insane.
I could feel him taking over that very second, and all my fears vanished. He was with me during chemo, and I never threw up. He was with me when they amputated my breast, and he kept me from loosing it then(my mind, they still took my boob)
I feel like I went happily insane, and I feel great mentally. Boy, does that sound like a loon, or what? If you have to go insane, it's better to go happily, then the other way.
I hope what I just wrote made sense. When I reread it, I'm not so sure! God bless you, and all my friends on this board! I pray for all of you to have peace and not to ever be scared again. Once you've been through this, you can do anything!
Love, crazy LukeView Thread

Thank you for your prayers and everybody else. All of you are so sweet, and wonderful! I have to wait 3mo., and then have another MRI. If it grows any, they want to do a biopsy. It's different then when I had breast cancer. With that, I felt like I was doing something to get rid of it. With this, all I do is think about it. It's a weird feeling to know something is growing in your head. (that's not your brains! laugh) It seems like all I do is think about it, and I hate that!
Hopefully, the shock will wear off and I can forget about it a little. I'm just hanging in there. At least I have my cheery apt., to help me feel better! It's very hard to be depressed, with all my windows and the sun shinning all the time.
Thank you again, and please keep praying for me. I love all of you.
LukeView Thread

You learn about waiting, once you've had cancer. We all get use to it! I had to learn doctor patients 1 1/2yrs. ago, when I was first diagnosed. We all had to wait in the stupid waiting room, to see our doctor, then wait in his little room, for him to come in. Then we had to wait (FOREVER) for test results, lab results, chemo line, and radiation line!
All of us have probably waited for more minutes, during our treatments, then in our whole life! Did I say that right? I'm confused ALL the time. I use to blame it on chemo brain, now I can blame it on tumor brain. Some of these things come in handy, when your a forgetful person!
It's a beautiful day here in Jacksonville. I hope all of you are feeling well today, and that nobody is throwing up. I just prayed a quick prayer for that one. I love all of you and always pray for you! You are the best people that I know! Always caring about stranger's, always helping us when we think we can't take anymore. You all are the GREATEST, in my book!
Luke
p.s.For those of you wondering, that cute baby picture, is my daughter. She's 40yrs. old now.View Thread

Thanks for taking the time to write me. I found out that my new neurologist is waiting for my old MRI and the latest one to be faxed to there office, plus all the other info. Then the group (about 6 doctors) of doctors are going to read everything, and they will call me next week. To let me know how they want to precede. They will tell me if they need to see me right away, have another MRI done now, wait, or give me some kind of medication.
What made me get the MRI, was something was wrong with my speech last week, and they thought it might be a stroke. It wasn't a stroke, it was a tumor, damn it!
Anyway, I feel much better after calling the neuro. They are getting things done, and finding out everything. I couldn't be happier! I felt all alone, wondering what I was going to do. Now I have hope! Yipee! Love all of you, and God bless all of you!
LukeView Thread

They don't know if it's benign or not. But, it wasn't there a year ago. I had a MRI, one yr. ago, and there wasn't any growth. I just called my Oncologist and left a message, telling him. I probably should have called him Mon., but I didn't feel like talking about it then. I was at the hospital for a different reason and while I was there, they wanted me to get a MRI, that's how I found out. Some stranger doctor came up and told me. Now, I'm suppose to get another MRI in 3mo., but I don't think that doctor knew that I'd had breast cancer. I guess I'll learn more tomorrow, when my Onco. calls me. Thanks again, for your kind words.
LukeView Thread

Remember me, the one who got to move into Heavenly Apartments? I just finished my breast cancer treatments about 8mo. ago?
Well I had a MRI Friday, and they found a brain tumor! It's called a meningioma and it's on my left side, in the back. I know that I should be feeling something, fear, or something, but I don't. I'm not in denial, I know that I have it, but I'm not scared. It's like, after you hear somebody tell you that you have cancer,(now that scared the crap out of me) no other words can scare you.
Has anybody else on here had breast cancer and then got a brain tumor? How did you feel when you heard it, and what happens next? Thank you.
LukeView Thread

I never got the flu, never threw up, or any of the other things associated with chemo. And my white count went down to 20, but my red cells always stayed healthy. I had stage 3 breast cancer, and made my doctor keep me on antibiotic's. He didn't agree with me, but did it anyway. All the other chemo patients would become ill, from sick people in there family.
The most important thing to remember for everybody on here, is to turn all of this suffering, fear, and misery, over to God. Because, he's the real reason I only lost my hair. And, what person on here can't eat fruit, or veggie's out of a can for 7 short months?View Thread


You are acting like anybody, who just heard what you heard. First, there's shock, then there is a fear so bad, that you think you'll lose your mind.
When I heard the cancer word, I went home in shock. I lay on the bed with my husband thinking "Oh no God, I'm going to lose my mind right now, please help me." He all the sudden made me kind of leave my body for a few minutes, like you hear people say, that almost died.
Then almost instantly, a calmness came over me, I called my daughter to tell her the news, and the weird thing that just happened to me. That's when she said,(my sister already told her) that she was just praying for God to please let my brain be able to handle this.
The bottom line is, I asked God to please give me the strength, to handle what ever I was in for. And he did! I had no side effects, I never got sick, I had the nurses and doctors stumped! I laughed at that. I did get mouth sores, but he helped me through that also.
Your husband is lost right now, because he can't save you. Men think there job is to protect us ALWAYS. They have to think they are doing something, anything, to save you.
Your going to be fine, because they caught this so early. But your going to need your husband, so you are going to have to give him something special to do for you. Something that makes him feel he has some kind of control.
In my case, he wanted to cook for me and treat me like an invalid, so I let him. I never felt sick, but I pretended that I was some cripple or something. Plus it was GREAT! It made him think he had control over cancer, and I got served meals in bed!
Your going to be fine. Just ask God to please help you(to be strong) through this horrific thing that you have to go through. (for some reason, it's best for you) We never know what's down the road for us, but he does, and this is suppose to happen.(unfortunately) I'm praying for you, as we speak, so don't worry.
And tell your daughter! She is stronger then your giving her credit for.(my daughter is just like yours, so I thought the same thing) Mine became supper woman, and was my best help through the whole mess. God bless you!
LukeView Thread
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