Hello All, I was diagnosed with stage 2 rectal cancer (low) in February 2015. The tumour had just started...
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Hello All, I was diagnosed with stage 2 rectal cancer (low) in February 2015. The tumour had just started into the mesorectal fat, so a t3a tumour. I had the typical 28 day chemo radiation and then surgery in July to remove rectum. I was left with a permanent colostomy which I'm managing to get used to. I will soon start on four months of adjuvant chemo. My biggest concern Is that the surgeon did not get all of the mesorectal fat in the tme surgery. The tumour was .5mm from the radial margin meaning a positive radial margin, but the tumour is still a good distance away from the mesorectal fascia. There were no lymph nodes involved and no vascular involvement. Just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. I'm worried about the higher incidence of local recurrence. Also wondering if anyone has ever heard of a second surgery to get that mesorectal fat that was missed?? I have an oncology appointment in a week to get some questions answered but thought I'd check here beforehand. Thanks.View Thread
I was just diagnosed with rectal cancer. I'm stage 2. I will be starting radiation and chemo next Thursday. I'm told it will be five weeks of this to shrink the tumor, then they wait about four weeks for the radiation to continue working on the tumor, then they will perform surgery.
Initially, I was thinking I wouldn't tell my daughters anything because they are so young. I don't want to scare them. But a few days ago, my surgeon went over more of the details of how they plan on treating me. Reality kicked in and I realized I have about a year of fighting ahead of me. I may or may not lose my hair, get very nauseous, be extremely tired...and so on and so forth. I will also have a lot of appointments, which will confuse my girls as to where I am constantly.
The one thing I'm relieved about is that I have 50/50 custody with my ex husband so they don't need to see every single day of this ordeal. We literally switch custody Sundays, Tuesdays an Thursdays so we have the girls a couple of days at a time. But it has been going through my mind the past few days that the Mommy they know right now may very well become a different Mommy...at the very least...their Mommy is going to be very busy and they might take that personally.
So I've been struggling with IF I should tell them and if I do, how do I tell them?? How much detail do they actually need at this age? Do I need to say cancer? Can I just say Mommy's sick? Do I need to tell them it's rectal cancer? I mean, we still butt or booty!
I found out on August 21st and it's been quite the roller coaster. Just when I think I'm in control of my emotions and feeling strong and confident, something shakes me and I start to cry. Then I get mad. Then I shake it off and get strong again.
One stumble I had after I told the guy I'd been dating for two months that I have rectal cancer. We had such a great connection personality wise and sexually. Both had very similar divorce stories, two kids around the same age...on paper, we were a great match. But I guess he is not as mature as I thought he was because, even though his mother has survived three cancers, he apparently can't deal with me having cancer. He truly just disappeared. I haven't heard from him or seen him since the night I told him, which is a week ago. He's never gone this long without reaching out to me and it's a bit devastating. A few days ago I had a bit of a breakdown because I got so angry that I got cancer and wondered if he'd still be around if I didn't. Then I got over it and realized it's his loss.
Another test of my strength was a few days ago when I found out exactly what I will be going through and received my patient check in card for radiation. It all became very real and I felt like a scared little girl. I bounced back from in within a day and felt positive again...until today.
As I sat here enjoying my alone time with my youngest daughter while her sister is in school, I suddenly realized that I may very well have to tell these two precious little gems and I had to go into the bathroom to cry.
I'm sure this is all very normal, but it's frustrating for me as well. And just as with my miserable divorce two years ago, everyone is trying to be so supportive and loving and I'm truly honored and very blessed. But at the same time, just as it was with my divorce, I feel a bit alone. None of my supporters, save one that I'm not very close to, have ever had cancer...just like none of them had ever been divorced. I apologize for babbling. It's been an overwhelming few weeks and I suppose I'm just trying to reach out for support in the hopes of not feeling so alone. I appreciate any insight that anyone can give me. I know I will survive this...I just don't want to feel so alone in this battle despite the droves of supporters I have. Does that even make sense? Sigh...looking forward to responses.View Thread
I posted about my cancer 5 years ago and also asked to be notified of responses. Well the strangest thing happened a few weeks ago, I was notified there was further responses. What did I see but answers that were posted not now but 5 years ago. Here nor there, I am still alive and gaining weight so, so far, so good for me.
I wish I had read about the milk products all the way back then but I still survived without knowing any of that. I am now down to only taking loperamide a few times a weak and only if I start getting those horrible cramping pains in my stomach which to me means HERE IT COMES. I then rest on the couch with my feet up until the meds work and then I'm good to go again. I also ALWAYS take 2 if I plan on eating dinner out. I guess I have learned how to control the repercussions of my cancer treatments.
I did find that the radiation did a trick on my hips causing arthritis until I could barely walk and after trying everything from pills to acupuncture I found through physical therapy that even though it hurts so much that it is the trick for me to be in much less pain and stiffness.
I hope this note finds all of you from 5 years ago still here and healthy.
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