If there is one certainty in your post I can agree, its the power of a positive, grateful, and loving mind. For anyone fighting cancer, its very hard to not doubt yourself, at times. To be unsure whether you're making the "right" choices. It's these times when faith comes to our aid...
"Whatever the outcome, it'll be OK as long as I believe..."View Thread
Was there a point in your treatment where it occurred to you that maybe the chemo and radiation was doing more harm than good? That the chemo was destroying your liver faster than the mets? Do your attribute your recovery to the treatments you received from your doctors (chemo & radiation) more than your own body's immune system kicking in and defeating the cancer, on its own? Just curious...View Thread
25 states and 4 tribes in CDC's Colorectal Cancer Control Program provide colorectal cancer screening services to low-income men and women aged 50—64 years who are underinsured or uninsured for screening, when no other insurance is available.View Thread
Dealing with cancer is no different than any other life (or death) experience. Going to the supermarket Attending a kid's birthday party Getting your tax return audited
People die at the supermarket, at birthday parties & at the IRS. Difference is, you don't expect it. It would come as a "surprise". Even though we know death could come to us at any time, we never want to see it coming.
Of course, another difference about the cancer experience is the emotional instability that engulfs everyone involved that makes it all the more frightening and uncertain. In reality, many people respond to cancer just like your sister-in-law. My suggestion is, just carry a rolled up newspaper in your purse at all times. lol
I hope your father in law is at peace and tranquil. If he isn't, that's too bad since his prognosis is not great.
I hope you and your husband are at peace with yourselves and each other, too. When you are upset and feeling dread, its easy to lose focus and concentration. On the flip side, when you're calm and at peace, you make better decisions and become confident. The calm state of mind opens the doors to more positive and successful outcomes...Yes, even with cancer, there are opportunities for inspiring and unforgettable experiences. Moments of great love and caring that can never be experienced if not for occasions such as these.
Don't expect the worse. Expect the best and except less, if required.
PS: I've buried two family members this last year. One, was my father. I bought eggs and tomatoes at the supermarket, this morning. I survived, both, just fine. Good luck and please drive safely.View Thread
Impossible to guess based on the information provided but it does not sound good. Please see a physician about this matter, asap...
Before your first appointment, write (as you have) with as much detail as possible exactly what you have noticed developing in the last few months. What's different, are you under an unusual amount of pressure at school, how's homelife...detail your diet for an average week; is it cooked at home from scratch or are you eating out. Are you involved in any new activities that might expose you to different foods or chemicals. Fax your observations to your doctor before your appt. so the doctor can hit the ground running when he/she actually examines you.
Colorectal cancer is unusual for young teens since its very slow in developing; 9 out of 10 patients with CC are over the age of 50. Anythings possible but let's allow a physician to address your health issues at this time.
Continue to eat good and be very active. Good luck and please let us know what you discover.View Thread
When a person faces the prospects of undergoing re-sectioning surgery, chemo &/or radiation treatment, its important to understand that this is an extremely hard and exhausting ordeal.
This is why I strongly suggest the following advice for anybody recently diagnosed with cancer, regardless of stage.
1. Get strong. 2. Get fit. 3. Get ready (for the assault).
Try to lose 5-10% body weight if overweight.
Eat a diet predominant in fruits & vegetables; eliminate processed foods whenever possible.
Eliminate all food or drink with added sugar or artificially sweetened.
Regular, daily exercise is critical; walking is excellent
Run Comprehensive Metabolic Panel (CMP) and Complete Blood Count (CBC) as often as allowed and thoroughly review with your physician.
A1C (diabetes) and test for anemia very important.
Address any sleep disorders, immediately.
Txgirl63, it is up to you to learn how to track and review your own progress. If you think the clinic or your doctors will do this for you, I got news for you...that will be a big mistake. Most likely, they are just too busy. Cancer is such a terribly expensive disease and operating costs for a cancer practice are enormous. Most likely, you've already noticed this during your preliminary visits. If you don't ask questions, then, its "assumed" you know whats going on. Prepare for each consultation with a written list of questions assembled, beforehand. Ask the most important ones, first, in case you run out of time.
Its just common sense. The better condition you're in, the better able your body can recover and fight.
If you're not sure what to ask, that's OK; get referrals...Registered Dietician specializing in post operative Cancer...Physical Trainer specializing in Cancer Recovery. Any Hematologist can explain your blood panels and how your body is responding to treatment, whether you're becoming anemic, how well your liver and kidneys are holding up, adverse reactions to meds, blood glucose levels, vitamin D, insulin, testosterone and key electrolyte levels, etc.
I am, by no means, trying to scare you. If you're not scared enough, already, something is seriously wrong...
I just want you to be prepared. I just want you to be as informed as possible. Your doctor will be so happy he's dealing with a patient that's proactive, asks smart questions and is mentally and physically prepared for success. Think about it...Who wouldn't want to have a client like this?
I'm glad someone in your family is addressing pain relief, now, because I think your dad's in great need of it. At the same time, I really don't think "driving the family apart" is on your father's bucket list, either. I urge you to give your dad and mom some credit. They've been around the block a few times. They know the score. Honor them with respect and they will tell you, truthfully, what their needs are. Now is the time to be calm and listen. Less is more.
Just my opinion, but one of the "problems" about giving advice to people who ask questions on this board?
1. They only want to hear what they want to hear, and 2. They almost never say"thank you".
Against my better judgment, though, here goes...
What is effective to give him some relief from the pain?
Simple: He won't see the doctor, so have the doctor come to him.
If he is covered by Medicare, in-home hospice care is one of the least understood and most powerful options available to seniors with cancer. It is thesecret weapon and nobody uses it!
I read, recently, the average stay in hospice in the US is less than a couple weeks. Idiotic! Cancer patients need to go into hospice care far sooner so they can access pain, nausea & constipation medications (and other interventions), free of charge! Your father can see a doctor, can have a registered nurse come visit twice a week, can have home health aids come and bath him and treat bed sores, at no cost to him. He needs a hospital power bed, he needs incontinence equipment that will allow him to sleep through the night, he needs pain meds to manage his pain while the family "circles the wagons", so to speak. You need allies.
The one stipulation with hospice care? You can't go to emergency.
Big deal! By what you say, he won't go, anyway!
Procedures like Thoracentesis (fluid drain from lungs) and Abdominal Centesis (fluid drain from abdominal cavity) can all be performed at an out-patient clinic; not emergency. In other words, its not against hospice "rules". Fluid retention from advanced liver failure is very often the source of all the pain in the first place!
What is effective to give him some relief from the pain?
Morphine, Fentanyl, Percoset...
I suppose you could get this stuff from a junkie but at what cost? Why not get it free through in-home hospice care?Your father gets to watch his favorite TV shows, in his favorite chair surrounded by the people who love him while a registered nurse prescribes, administers and has all medications delivered to your home, free.
The strategy behind in-home hospice care is to utilize this free service, in unison, with chemo/radiation or alternative care. Get into hospice, early, while you and the family battle the cancer, together.
Choosing in-home hospice care is not waving the white flag. For people who are smart, it is exactly the opposite. It is preparing for battle, the true fight for life.
In closing, I'm sorry you and your father must face these tough choices.
I was very lucky. My father trusted me. He gave me complete authority. In the end, he thanked me and told me "I love you". That's when I knew I made the right call...
Hope its the same for you, buddy...Good luck and God's speed!
Note: To arrange in-home hospice care, consult your doctor. Medicare can arrange for local service to visit within 2-3 days.