My father in law was told he had colon cancer in Feb. When he had gone to the Dr they told him that it was also in his liver and growing. It was all stage IV. He finally started chemo in the beginning of June. He told us that he has 12 rounds of chemo. He goes in for 6 hrs then wears a pack for 40 hrs. He has lost a bunch of weight. Now we have been told by my his wife that he is not eating at all, has bed sores, can not get in and out of the shower and can barely walk. He is still at home with her. Also he is only 63.
I have been reading and reading about this. We were told several months ago that he really only has until October maybe. Ten years ago I went through terminal skin cancer with my mom. When she was at this stage she only lasted a month. I am thinking the same thing about my father in law. My husband thinks he has a lot longer and that he might even get through it. I know he is probably not understanding it all. My husband met my mom 2 days before she died. He wasn't with me with all that she went through and now with his dad.
Another problem with this is that we have not seen him in 5 years. They lived in Michigan and moved to Las Vegas. We live in Nashville, TN we go to Michigan to see his mom and step dad. But it is hard to get to Vegas. It is now 1800 miles one way for us to drive. And flights have gone up. We actually are financially strapped to buy flights too.
I know everyone is different even with the same type of cancer. But I really needed some advice of really how long does any one think he has. I know, we should get out there to see him asap. But my step mother in law is not really letting us know what is going on. She posted on facebook what was going on and my husband sister yelled at her on fb for doing that! Because she didn't know how bad he has been getting either!
I want thank everyone who read this for letting me vent and talk about this. I know it helps me trying to figure this out. Cancer is the worse thing! I do know many of people that have survived it. But there has been to many people that I know that have not.View Thread
My husband was not to far off on his Dad. He did though make it through July. He passed away August 1 at 2:30pm. My husband is ok. He has broke down a little. The bad thing is it was my brother in laws birthday. That is not good that his Dad died on his birthday. I know we will all get through this. Like my son has said Grandpa isn't in anymore pain and is all healed.View Thread
Junebugjelly---You were very lucky that it all got cleared up. But my father in law is not. Last weekend my husband flew to Las Vegas to see his dad. He was taken to the hospital the day before and we were both worried that he would not make it out there before something happened. My husband said his goodbyes to his dad. He was in the hospital for 5 days. He also has an ulcer in his stomach that keeps on bleeding. He had 4 transfusions this last time. My father in law now has been moved to a hospice care center. There is nothing anymore that can be done. We are just now waiting for the call. He can not walk anymore and has lost a great deal of weight and really won't eat that much. My husband says he will be shocked if he last until the end of July. That is only a few days away. When something does happen we will go back out to Vegas.View Thread