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This is our second miscarriage last one was in September. The doctor said he doesn't know what went wrong the baby seemed so healthy my hormones were great . I was on Endometrin for extra progesterin so my body still thinks im pregnant. He told me I have to have a D&C and I'm so scared. Does anyone know if it hurts?
I don't think I've ever hurt so much in my life and whats worse the ultrasound tech had the image on the screen. She wasnt just an egg she was a little person. I saw her little fingers and toes. The fact that she is still there inside me is killing me. I feel like I did something wrong like I should have known something was wrong or maybe there was something I could have done to save herView Thread
a good friend of mine had IVF done. She was implanted with 3 eggs. 2 survived. She started bleeding around 6 wks. she foes in for u/s 2x a wk. she has a blood clot and she is bleeding and passing clots. her last u/s on 2/22, she found out that baby B died. the baby was pushed off the wall by the clot. Baby A is still ok.
Im going to see her after work and I just want to know what I should say / do to her. I was in tears when she told me. and I just don't know how to act in front of her. I don't want to only talk about her loss, but is that what I should do? I'm 19 wks preg right now, and I feel bad going to see her with my big belly showing..even though she still has Baby A, I feel guilty for having a healthy pregnancy.
I just want her to know I care and I just want to say the right thing and not upset her even more...please help me know what to say to someone that has had a m/c. sorry for sound ignorant, but I just never had to face such a tragedy before.
Thank you.View Thread
And my sister in law is due March 21, so I am going to her baby shower in a few weeks. I am so excited to be an aunt for the first time and excited that DS will finally have some other kids to play with! (he's the first of his generation on both my side and DH's side). It's just hard. I knew it would be hard and I just want June to be here and gone already.
Thanks for letting me vent. Here's to the future and all of us finally finding peace in our situations. <3View Thread
Since then, I have kept it togther pretty well considering, but this past week seem to have entered the grieving stage. I cry at the most inconvienient times and have many questions running thorugh my mind.
I would appreciate any answers and advice to the following questions:
Has anyone ever has a cerclage, If so, what was your recovery time, and how was the rest of your pregnancy after you got it put in?
What is the best way to get past the grieving stage? How long might it take?
I was advised to take the pill for a few months. How long might it take to get pregnant again after I stop? (I had no trouble the first time- it happened the first month i really tried)View Thread
In the meantime, I'm going to work on myself, becoming healthier, losing at least 17 lbs and working on a healthy lifestyle. Both my boyfriend and I are coping well, we know that it wasn't meant to be but that we are meant to have a healthy beautiful baby when the time is right.
J.View Thread
I have been reading comments and discussions for a few days, trying to learn how others deal with painful memories and how to be present now. Here is a little bit of my history...had my DS in July of 2010. A perfect baby boy
I felt okay during my pregnancy with him, but I knew that I would have..issues after he was born. I didnt feel that bond that most moms tell about. I knew I loved him, but I didnt want him. So! While batteling severe postpartum his dad got laid off from work!! So I had to return to work ...after planning for 9 months to stay home. I was not ready to return to work, people were so happy and had nothing but nice things to say about how adorable my son was..I didnt care to hear it. So after 3 different types of medication. I have given up on trying to use medication to get better. My Son is now 18 months old and I am still not happy. Please don't think that I havent tried..In september 2010 I had a miscarriage..at 8 weeks i started spotting and my doctor had me come in to " put my mind at ease for the weekend"..yeah a whole lot that did..I had seen my little " DOT" at 6weeks, I saw it's tiny heartbeat..and that day seemed like the worst day of my life. I was really hoping that maybe another pregnancy would " knock it out of me"... it only made it worse. My OB promptly started me on medication..knowing my ongoing history.. I took the meds for a while..but stopped..nothing helps. I don't know how to get out of this..my mom says i need to snap out of it and be a mom. I just don't know how.. Like I said I love my son I know I do. I just would rather not be around him. And then a miscarriage..I feel so Lost.View Thread
I found out yesterday that the baby stopped growing. I kind of knew that anyway since this pregnancy started out a little weird. I got off the pill October 4th and think I got pregnant right away. Symptoms within a couple of weeks. But they could never date the pregnancy.
My first ultrasound showed I was around 4-5 weeks pregnant; which was about 4 weeks earlier than I thought. I guess it stopped growing around 4-5 weeks. I started bleeding Sunday and am having a "regular like" period since. I went to the doctor yesterday and he said the yolk sac has not collapsed yet and so I am going back Wednesday. I'm guessing he will check me again.
I just do not want a D&C, so I am hoping it passes on its own. I thought I would have major cramping and lots of blood with a miscarriage, but none of that so far. Is it coming or is it normal to have a normal period flow?
BTW, my doctor told me that if I want to try again, there is no waiting period. He said my hormones will be very high right after a miscarriage and that he sees plenty of girls in the office the month after a miscarriage starting another pregnancy. It happened to my sister. She got pregnant the month after each of her two miscarriages.
Thanks for listening.
Kelli
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