Hello Ladies, I lost my triplets at 23 weeks. My husband and I went to a normal checkup and found out I was 1cm dilated. The Dr. had me on bed rest and tried progesterone but that didn't seem to work. The following day the Dr. checked me and I was 8cm. They prepared my husband and I for our babies to be born later that day, this was not the case. I stayed in the hospital for another two weeks with my son in my cervix. It wasn't until I got very sick that they induced me. A few hours later my little boy and two baby girls were born. They all passed away that same day in our arms. My husband and I took some time off of work and cried together. Now I feel like he is doing much better than I am, I still cry and think about our babies daily. I wish I could see what kind of little people they would be. My husband and I tried for about two years before we were blessed with our triplets so needless to say we were so excited and now our hopes and dreams are crushed. I currently am going for counseling but I'm not sure if it is working. I don't really know how to tell if it does. My Dr. suggested that we wait for 18month to try again but I don't want to wait that long but I also don't want to have this happen again. Any suggestions? Does anyone have any stories about having a full term pregnancy after something like this? If so how long did you wait? I am turning 31 so I feel like time is limited especially if it takes us a few years to conceive again. My heart goes out to all of you.View Thread
I am so sorry that you are all having to face this day without your little baby or Babies.
Everywhere I turn everyone is wishing mothers everywhere a happy mothers day. People are over joyed with their happy little families. and I ache for the loss of mine.
How was I to know my emotions would get the best of me on this day. Today I tried to occupy my time with family. I tried to celebrate their joy of having their families but I couldn't take it anymore. I came home to an empty house and looked through our babies pictures and their clothes and cried myself to sleep. At times I feel normal and look forward to our future and then sometimes I have days like today, when my heart aches so intently that I don't think I can face the day. Every day I get dressed and try to put a smile on my face and go on as if I didn't just have my hopes and dreams shattered a little over three months ago. I try to smile and act happy when people come into my store with ultrasound pictures and show them off. I smile when pregnant women come in to be fitted for a dress and complain about gaining a little weight. And yes when I get the dreadful question from my customers, are you and your husband going to try to have babies, I simply smile and say someday. If I actually say I have three babies they ask how old and then I have to say they didn't make it. This is not a story I care to share with my customers but at the same time I don't want to act like I didn't have my babies. I feel by denying themit is like letting them down, silly I know but I don't know what else to do or say. My heart goes out to you all. I hope you all can one day soon have the families you long for.View Thread
I am so sorry for you. The pain you are feeling is so normal. It has been three months for me and I still have days were I can't stop crying but then there are days that I feel as normal as I can. The hope that my little babies knew I loved them makes me feel better. Keep holding on. Try not to be alone. We are all here for you.View Thread
I am so sorry for you. I too had to take a break from facebook. I had my pregnant friends posting pics of their ultrasounds an now pics of their babies. Although I am happy for them it still hurts very much. People have no idea how much it hurts unless they have lost a baby themselves. Yes they feel sad for you for a week or so but they move on as if you are still not in pain. For that reason I had to step away from facebook.View Thread
Don't ever feel crazy. Everyone has their own way of greiving. It will be two months tomorrow since I have lost my triplets and I still have my ups and downs. I know how you feel when you say you have to put on a happy face even when you aren't feeling like it. I started counseling and she says that everything I am feeling is normal. Please don't ever feel like you are alone. I'm so happy I found this discussion group because it has helped me to learn that I'm not alone. Hold your head up!View Thread
I too am so sorry for your loss. I lost my triplets at 23 weeks on January 18th and still have some discharge like you have. I have already gone for my 4week checkup and my Dr. told me it is normal. If it changes and you have pain or it has an odor I would contact your Dr again.View Thread