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How long did everyone else wait to try again? My head says to go for it since my cycle is reset but my heart is wavering between fear and desire to be pregnant again. I hate not being in control of my own life...really make me nutso.View Thread

Only you can know how you feel but i know if i had made it as far as you I would be giving myself more time, but I don't know I just feel like with each day I gain a bit more acceptance and know that I will just be in close contact with doc from the first sign......whenever I end up seeing it. :>View Thread

I understand being hesitant to try again, in fact after my 1st baby (now 2 a little girl) came 5 weeks early due to a pregnancy complication called placenta previa, and her being an emergency c section and being transported to another hospital that day without me....it was rough. I was sure I wanted more children......but really unsure if I could handle pregnancy again since my risk at another "high risk" pregnancy is now very high, but in time....2 years to be exact....I am trying to have a baby so the miscarriage i experienced recently didn't help but I am coaching myself to a place of acceptance that I did nothing wrong and it's extremely common and things will be better next time.
Good luck and hang in there....keep posting...even if others don't always reply....its often just a good outlet for your thoughts without judgement.View Thread

cshultz....while I did not lose my baby on my birthdayor anniversary, I still can relate. My miscarriage started 4 weeks ago tomorrow, while my husband was out of town at work and I was alone.....if you look at a calender this is just days before Father's Day...needless to say it is one we will never forget and for all the wrong reasons. Just keep hanging in and posting thoughts....even if nobody replies to some of your posts....i find it therapeutic just to let it all out.View Thread

I knew going to the appt that I wasn't pregnant anymore. I just didn't expect being told I wasn't would be as hard as it was. I feel just blah these last few days since the appt. I know I only knew about the pregnancy for a week but we were sooo excited and couldn't wait to feel the milestones....heartbeat, kicks, rolls, etc. and in 1 night the excitement went away. Just being in his office where I was pregnant with my 1st child(now 2 years old) seemed unreal. I was so scared during my 1st pregnancy of the unknown, I thought this time would be different when I went to see my doc, but instead I just felt so alone and useless.
My doctor recommends we wait 1-2 cycles before "trying" to get pregnant again. He feels its more important to be emotionally ready to handle another go at it. I don't know that I will ever be emotionally ready to risk feeling this way again no matter when i take the chance. I just wish there was a way to get pregnant and hit fast forward until the 2nd-3rd trimesters when the risk goes down a bit. Maybe I don't mean that, but I think most women understand what I mean.View Thread

psluckystar32 that had to be horrible to go in to the dr thinking things are fine and be told otherwise. I can't begin to imagine how I would react had it been me. I too got pregnant with my daughter and this child very quick...we pretty much decided both times we would start when my period started and by my due date.....for auntie flow that is, the next next month i was pregnant. my daughter was born at 35 weeks due to a placenta previa complication and this child was maybe only 2 weeks at most.....i just am wondering if staying pregnant is my issue.
Today makes 3 weeks ago that I began to mc. Its just emotional because I had made an appt to see a dr that i would be going to see in a fe days. I find myself thinking....what would the due date have been? How far along exactly would i be? Then I tell myself to stop it because it just makes it harder.View Thread

I am trying to figure out what to do? When do I got for it again? I know I shoudl wait until I get at least 1 normal period....hopefully in the next couple weeks, but should I take that as my green light to take another chance once its come and gone? Or do you think I should wait 2-3?
I sometimes wish I could be on the guys side of things....makes you wonder.....what do they think about all this?View Thread

Thanks for sharing your story, its weird how knowing someone else has felt this kind of pain actually does help. I know I will try again and probably will as soon as possible, not because I am desperate for a baby, but because I know for me I am not trying to replace the baby I "could" have had but because I know I will never forget this. I am willing to take the risk for the magical feeling you get when that little person looks into your eyes the first time, or when they grab your finger and the best of all part hearing "mommy" the first time.View Thread

I know this is a lot, I felt the need to tell you because I lost my baby 2 weeks ago and while somedays I feel ok with it and know it happened for a reason that I could not prevent, other days I find myself pulling back from everyone including my husband. I know you will do whats right for you, but having someone to grieve with may be what you need.View Thread

My story is nothing compared to yours but I just find myself shocked by how much it hurts emotionally to lose a baby even though I literally only knew I was pregnant for 1 week.
I know we will be trying again.....docs and literature say waiting at least 1-2 months is recommended. I just pray third pregnancy will be the charm and maybe it will be uneventful.
Something that has helped me stay sane is to just live day by day. Your man will come around......they experience a strong sadness to the loss too even though for a lot of guys they don't show it as outwardly as us ladies do. Just make sure you are "there for him" also and not just the other way around.View Thread
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