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I am very sorry for your losses. I am glad you are meeting with a specialist and I hope you are able to find some answers.
You can also find some really awesome support on the Trying To Conceive After Loss board. The board isn't overly active, but more so than here. And, I can speak from experience, there is a wealth of knowledge and encouragement from the ladies there.
Good luck to you!View Thread

A very good friend of mine went through a similar situation at almost the same age as you. She knew she was pregnant, but it was ectopic only she didn't find out until she was almost 10 weeks. When they went in to remove the pregnancy, the doctor touched her tube and it exploded. She lost a lot of blood and, like you, almost died.
I am happy to say that she now has a beautiful 3.5 year old boy and 9 month old boy/girl twins. She did have to have fertility treatments to get pregnant. But she was able to carry to term.
My advice to you is to take each moment as it comes. Don't try to hide your sadness or pretend your ok. Let yourself feel whatever it is you're feeling. You can be thankful to be alive and still ache for what you lost. And know that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, so anything you feel is normal, be it anger, sandness, shock or jealousy. You'll probably feel them all along the journey.
Only time will help you cope.View Thread

Look to your husband, family and friends for support and if you don't find it there, seek it out elsewhere. A message board like this one was my savior at first with my first loss. My family (husband included) and friends had a very hard time talking about my loss the first time and all but swept it under the rug, so I sought support online and it helped. This time around, I think they are better equipped to handle the situation. We just found out we lost the baby yesterday, but already I can tell my husband is there for me far more so than he was able to be in May.
Just breathe. Take each day moment by moment, heartbeat by heartbeat. Let yourself feel your emotions, don't try to be brave or strong right now. Try not to get caught up in the "why me" and "what did I do to deserved this". Truth is, you did nothing to deserve this and nothing you could have done could have changed the outcome. Trust that you will come to terms with your loss and begin to heal.
My heart goes out to you, and to all of us who suffer such a great loss. Hugs to you.View Thread

Hugs to you momma, I am sorry for your loss.View Thread

I also found it easier to find support online as it allowed me to keep some of my anonymity and privacy but still read the stories of women who have suffered the loss of a child. Just knowing that I was not alone in my struggle helped tremendously.
Babycenter.com has a Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant loss board that I spent a lot of time on in the weeks following my miscarriage. It has a lot more activity than this board, so you may want to check it out.
I am very sorry for your loss, I pray you are able to find peace soon.View Thread

I can't really speak to your question if your loss could have been prevented. I'm not familiar with abnormal genes or clotting disorders. I do know it's not something doctors typically test for if you haven't had any previous losses. I would speak with your doctor or maybe consult a different OB to discuss the situation.
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this horrible time. I hope you are able to find peace soon. Hugs to you momma.View Thread

Hugs to you!!View Thread

Hugs to you, momma. I hope you are able to find peace soon.View Thread

I know what you mean about wanting to be done. I had a natural m/c and started bleeding on Saturday and I am already ready to be done... it's frustrating not knowing how long it will last.
Good luck! My heart goes out to you!View Thread
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