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You really don't know if he is a bad kisser or not. He definitely has boundary issues; physical space and...

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Dating a bad kisser

I have been seeing this guy for a couple weeks. I like him and he seems smitten over me. He was married a...

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Reply: Shes just boring or Im just a freak?

I've been married only one time, for 33 years. There's the old joke? about sex ends when you get married....

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I've been married only one time, for 33 years. There's the old joke? about sex ends when you get married. There are two main reasons for this; the woman only engaged in sex because it was expected in order to get married or the man was clueless about how to please a woman. It is logical to think that if a woman enjoys sex it will be more frequent.

I have a high sex drive and I really enjoy pleasuring my partner. I swore I would never get into a relationship with a woman who didn't absolutely love sex. My first longer term sexual relationship was at age 33. I met her through computer dating (pre internet). We made love on the first date. She was highly intelligent, curvaceous and as interested in sex as I was. We went to XXX movies together, groped each other's crotches while driving and she was thrilled to give me a quicky even if she wasn't aroused. The downside is that she couldn't work. She was the perfect date.

I met my wife to be around the same time, at work. She had been sexually active for over 12 years and never had an orgasm. The first time we made love she orgasmed repeatedly. We made love so often that she walked bow legged. Eventually, she insisted on an exclusive relationship.
I ended the relationship with the first woman and two years later we got married. Over the years sex became less frequent and only when she initiated it. The variety of tolerable sexual activities also decreased. When we made love, she was a passionate lover and we would make love for hours, where she would have 100's of orgasms and stop when she was exhausted.

It's been over a year since we last made love and I'm not optimistic that we will ever make love again. It drive's me nuts that a woman who has such a high capacity for sexual pleasure won't let herself enjoy it.

Reflecting back, there had to be some issues (other than incompetent lovers) for to have had sex for 12 years and not enjoyed it. I've had a house, a kid, a dog and a partner.
Being in a sexless relationship really hurts.
If I had it to do over again, I might consider never getting married and only stay in a relationship that was mutually sexually fulfilling.View Thread

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Take the Poll

Would you let your wife hook up with another man?

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Reply: a man

Common sense tells me he shouldn't be. As FCL mentioned, some more information would be helpful. And posting...

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Reply: Dating a dirvorced man and now the ex wife wants h...

Thank you..I will.

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Reply: opinions on pornography and marriage

I don't get to decide what is normal. That's done by society as a whole. I either look at something or I...

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Reply: Ex husband using me!

I posted this on the other exchange and it got lost. Thank goodness I copied to a word doc. Do you have...

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Reply: Husband has child with another woman

Totally agree with everything! Kids both know about what's going on and they are both being very good to me....

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Reply: nph106-reader has a question

Thank you for coming back and telling us about your situation. I have been wondering about you. I am incredibly...

There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

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Reply: discovering my husbands affair

I was just reading your story, and being in a similar situation myself. I wanted to ask, since its been 5...

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Reply: Sex drive

I am sorry to hear that as i need some more information from your side as i am not able to getting your...

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Reply: Is it him or me?

It's him. I'm like your bf, only can release from behind. It's more sensations and tightness for me. I have...

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Reply: Leaving for Military

It took a while before my son could call home. He called us once he got to Basic just to inform us he made...

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Reply: I don't know where we stand.

Now, i have seen this same situation go both ways to many people that i have loved. Just one thing to...

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Reply: Is my wife a DUD?

Ricky...Ricky...Ricky... Is My Wife A DUD? If I was your father little man, I'd be holding you by the ear...

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Reply: Help, grossed out :(

MissCaptainKirk - Your situation screams for counseling. Either drag him with you or go yourself and follow...

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Reply: New Here- Can You Ever Recover From An Affair?

In my humble opinion, yes YOU can. That will solely be up to you. As far as your relationship...

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Reply: Staying In A Sexless Relationship!!!

Hutch, you've hit upon the magic thing that most men want and don't really know how to articulate and...

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Take the Poll

I want to know if any of you are willing to stay in a sexless relationship?

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Reply: PArticularly interested in women's perspective on ...

Tell her that's a great idea and when you get home you're gonna treat her just like that ice cream cone...

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Reply: Marriage In Crisis

I have the same problem ............ Can anybody help me out????? I think I should get a kind a counseling...

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Reply: My Fiance doesn't find me sexually attractive

It sounds to me as if you've outgrown each other. People change over the years - some go in the same direction,...

There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

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Reply: Boyfriend question

I think you're overthinking this. It either didn't occur to him to let you know or he just forgot. Now let this go...

There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

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1 Reply | Reply | Watch This Discussion Report This | Share this:Boyfriend question I think you're overthinking this. It either didn't occur to him to let you know or he just forgot. Now let this go...

Reply: In-laws a bit too helpful! Advice?

I agree and it's as simple as pointing out that your MIL has them all to herself all day and you would like the...

There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

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Reply: Ex's and their family

Agreed! They will always have a relationship regardless of what happens to the family.

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Reply: Leave or not to leave

Sure, take a break. But don't just leave...talk to her about what you're feeling, about what this means. (For...

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Reply: Poll- Getting to know you!

Jessica 25yrs Unemp. Together almost 8yrs., Married 4yrs. None. Miscarried @10wks. 2yrs ago. The South...

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Reply: sex and relationship

That's so true!!

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Reply: I'm new here - I need some advice!!

Maybe he is the one doing the cheating

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Reply: Am I over-reacting

Absolutely agree with what everyone else has said! You deserve to be happy and so do your children...you need...

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