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End of a marriage?

Couple married & together for several years, have children, and have struggled in their marriage. They've...

Posted by An_249632

Couple married & together for several years, have children, and have struggled in their marriage. They've only had a couple rounds of counseling years ago before kids but mostly the husband went on his own because the doc wished to continue seeing him. Once parenthood arrived the couple were great about going out on their own or doing something together a couple of times a month, however they were still not a solid, happily married couple. The wife started to tell the husband that he needed to calm down on the way he talked to the kids but he found her showing some of the same not-so-great parenting skills and didn't appreciate her questioning his. She continued to tell him to go out on the weekends, to go away on a trip, go to a doctor, whatever he needed to get in a better place. He went to doctors and did his own thing one day every weekend. The couple still appeared happy to the outside world. After the wife kept seeing the husband lose his temper she finally told him during a heated talk that she didn't approve of his parenting and that he should really take a break because the kids stressed him out too much. She too had not been the best parent but she knew he was not happy. He knew they both had a lot to learn about parenting and was crushed that she didn't approve of his parenting.He wanted her to clean more and felt that she was too rough with words with him. He shut down and started pulling away from her after that. She began to feel it and they began to bicker more. Then she confronted him about his distant behavior and he said that they should try living apart taking turns crashing at friends houses while they worked out their differences. He left the next day and later that week she asked him to stay at home just live in a different room so that they could work on problems under the same roof. He agreed but had such anxiety about the way he parented around her that he couldn't handle it. He left again. Meanwhile she found out that he was talking to another girl that she knew he was friends with, much more than she ever thought they talked. He assured her it was nothing, after admitting he had talked to her about his marriage he promised he wouldn't talk to her about it anymore. So he started seeing a counselor. The wife requested couples counseling but his counselor said he wasn't ready for that. The wife wanted him to be able to say that they could work on the marriage and the husband refused to say anything other than he needed time to think. He shut out his family and friends so she called his family and friends asking for them to reach out to him. She told them all that she wanted to remain married and just couldn't reach him. They reached out to him but he felt confronted and shut them out even more. He continued to clean and do laundry to help out while he was gone. They helped each other with the kids.He finally decided that he wasn't getting enough space to think crashing at friends houses so he told his wife that he needed to get a 3 month lease, not anything longer because he might change his mind after a week, he just needed to do something for himself. She cried & yelled that she didn't want any of that and that it was unacceptable. He told her that it was his decision. She emailed the family & friends that she had reached out to & told them she had taken a chance marrying a mentally ill man because she felt that only someone clinically depressed & irrational would switch so dramatically. After a couple of days she reached out to her husband asking for each of them to see the same counselor individually until he was ready to go together and he still refused to leave it as an option. He got the apartment & moved out a week later. One day he reads all of the emails on her account about him even though he knows he shouldn't. After this he tells her that he is done and has never spoken that way about her. She says that she never left him. What would you do if you were him or her?View Thread

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Moved in with new husband that has disabled young ...

I have lived by myself for over 10 years. I took care of my mother for over 8 years until she passed 3 years...

Posted by booboo53

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Blended Family Issues

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Posted by kristinmarie722

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How Do I Convince My Wife it's OK for Me to Take C...

I've suffered from ED for essentially all of my adult life. It works, just not always...and not always very...

Posted by Ringo1968

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New years confession now until 1/2/2013

So I don't get much time anymore to post. Thought I would stopby and see what everyone was up to, and see...

Posted by GuardSquealer

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Frustrated - No Sex

My wife and i have had an up and down relationship. But I am at a spot now where I don't know what to do. I...

Posted by An_249518

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What does it take to get feedback on here

I have been posting for a while and get no feedback really struggling with depression.

Posted by cwgirl8461

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Emotional Abuse

I was involved with a man for for years. We were a couple.. He is 45 years old never been married and no...

Posted by cwgirl8461

I was involved with a man for for years. We were a couple.. He is 45 years old never been married and no children. I had a concern about that when I first started seeing him. He is/ was a very good guy in most ways. But...... When he would get upset or mad about something he would need time to cool off, not a normal time frame of calling off, it would be days, weeks, sometimes months. In the beginning of us dating, he got mad at me cause I did not tell people we were dating, when I really didn't know what we were doing , he hadn't kissed me, or acted like we were dating, we were friends and hung out a lot together , no intimacy, then once we were actually dating an a short time had went by he got mad cause he had been mad at me about something and I went to a neighbors party and he accused me of going there to be hooked up with some guy.... Then we worked through that, then he got mad that I wasn't ready for him to meet my mother. That time after he had bugged me about that for a while, he got mad and didn't talk to me for a few weeks, till I went to him and tried to talk.. So over a four year time span, he kept doing this, don't get me wrong he did a lot of really nice things also and had a lot of good attributes. But every time he would get upset about something he needed to walk away and cool off he said, some was trying to accept that about him, I called it his cave time, but it was always something else, didn't have to be major. He would fly off the handle at the smallest things. We are not together anymore, but I am hurting badly cause he blamed me for everything. He was never wrong, never sorry, never apologized, I couldn't ask him questions like how is your day, cause he worked a regular job and farmed , and if I asked him that between things, he would get mad and say ask me at the end of my day. Anyway we broke up for a long time, and then started tailing as friends, but then he would do things like hold my hand or kiss me, once in a while, but then he still got mad about little stuff and wouldn't talk to me for days. I always ended up going to talk to him. This last time, even though we were just friends, he was remodeling his bathroom and had no shower and he had worked till 930 pm and had been showering at his moms, so I offered to him that he could come to my house to shower and he blew up at me and said I was being disrespectful to his mother, offering that because what would she think cause she knows he cant shower at home, I replied I thought if your moon is like mine she us sleeping, I was trying to be thoughtful of his. On and he was yelling at me, and I replied your 45 years old so if you want to shower somewhere else, think your mom would know...he could have just nicely said thanks for the offer but my mom will worry or something if I don't show up but he went ballistic on me. I told him I felt he had anger issues and I did not deserve to be talked like that and I thought he needed to get some help with his anger issues. Have not heard from him, which is normal, but it hurts still that he thinks he is never wrong,.,,,,,,,View Thread

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boyfriend of 12 years or roommate?

relationship was good first 5 years. just seems to me when i developed a thyroid problem and went from...

Posted by An_249496

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Steph

It's good to see you back again! How are you doing?

There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

Posted by FCL

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I married his family!!

Well my husband and I have been married for almost 8 months and are also expecting our first child. I knew there...

Posted by cm1706

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post affair traumatic syndrome

my husband of 31 years cheated on me while we were separated. only separated for a month... he & I are...

Posted by troubled31

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Stuck at a stop sign

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. We have two kids (Boy 2 yrs and Girl 9 mo) and have lived...

Posted by G33kGrl

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What would it even be called?

I've been trying to find a support group of some sort to discuss my current troublesome relationship issues...

Posted by An_249066

I've been trying to find a support group of some sort to discuss my current troublesome relationship issues but apparently it is such a rare case that there's no such thing. I actually posted this in another discussion before I found this group.[br>I've been separated from my husband of ten years for almost four years now and divorced officially for almost a year. We have two kids and all the court orders are in place. Things are still kind of crazy at times because I during our marriage I was primarily a stay at home mom so I left the relationship with no job. I tried going back to school but that proved to be a waste of money and time, and now I can't find a job. I currently live on support and struggle to stay confident most of the time.[br>I dated a few guys briefly after the separation just to experience some intimacy (which I hadn't in the ladder years of the marriage) but never let anything go further than a fun time out for a night.[br>Then I found myself being pursued by a great guy fighting for a divorce from his wife of 6 years. She has borderline personality disorder and they have three kids together.[br>We could talk about everything and anything and seemed to be meant for each other. We ended up becoming romantic and eventually tried to build a relationship. We saw each other quite a bit for the first year or so and eventually decided to try and live together, both because he was always at my house anyway and because we knew it would help financially for both of us. We lived in my apartment for some time then moved into a bigger place to fit all the kids. I quit my cashiering job to go back to school and complete my 2 year degree (which I started near the end of my marriage but stopped because of the personal turmoil of the separation) because he said he would help me. Then all of a sudden he decided to the advice of his lawyer that he was going to move back to the town he lived in with his wife in order to aid his pursuit of full custody of his three kids. He moved a week before Christmas. He asked me to move with him but I said no because it would have been too far away from my kids school and I didn't want to sacrifice them for him. [br>In the process of his divorce trial his wife managed to get a temporary court order stating no cohabitation and that I'm not allowed around the kids during certain times, that being the only way she would agree to him having more time with the kids. She has done everything in her power to try to break us up because in her delusional state of BPD she thinks if she does he's going to "come home and fix this". So, now he lives a half hour away...I can't find a job with my garbage two year degree ... and our relationship frustrates me more and more every day. I can't help but feel like he lives like a bachelor coming and going as he pleases while I try to stay patient waiting for him to get a final court order, after waiting for what has been over a year now since the last day in court.[br>I can't help but want a "normal" relationship with him where we can just live together and be like a family but at the same time I don't think it will ever happen and it makes me think about breaking it off with him. I love him very much and we've been trying to make things work for a few years now but nothing seems to change. His (hopefully soon to be) ex-wife is a crazed maniac sucking the life out of him and turning the kids against me more and more every day, slowly killing the idea that I might be able to be a part of his family.[br>Ultimately the thing about this is my overwhelming desire to be with him and be his partner. I want so badly to just move on and create a life with him. We've even talked about him giving up his kids because their mother is completely insane and makes everything as hard as she can for him to be a part of their lives. [br>Maybe I need a divorce/dating a guy with an ex who has bpd/just want a normal life support group. I don't even knowView Thread

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probly just me right?

ok so heres my issues mother working with SO also working. we have our kids which is mainly our life. we are...

Posted by grimrider

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lack of sex drive

my husband and i just reconnected after a 5 year split, it's only been 4 months and his sex drive diminished...

Posted by booboo46

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insecure about his estranged wife

How much should you share with your partner about your interactions with your soon to be ex? The entire...

Posted by ailurophile79

How much should you share with your partner about your interactions with your soon to be ex?

The entire time I have been dating my boyfriend, he has been in a bitter divorce and custody battle. Before anybody scolds me about getting involved in such a complicated situation, let me tell you that there was a major head vs heart battle within me, and ultimately my heart won. I love my boyfriend and for the first time in my life have felt that I've met "the one". So I certainly understood the challenges going into it, but lately I have been gripped with major anxiety and insecurities about his relationship with his soon to be ex.

As info: he and his wife share placement of their 12 year old son, one week on, one week off. She lives with her boyfriend. My boyfriend and I do not live together, but over the past year have been spending nearly every night together - at my house when he doesn't have his son and at his house when he does. I did not start staying at his house with the son until his father and I had been dating for nearly a year. It was important to us to allow his son to come to terms with all the changes in his life in a healthy manner. Over the past year, his son and I have gotten quite close - he now gives me goodnight hugs along with his dad (unsolicited) and he has made multiple comments about our "family". He is a happy, wonderful, well-adjusted kid and I'm honored to have him in my life.

Recently, his music teacher sent an email to parents asking for family photos to include on a slide show for the school musical. My boyfriend submitted photos of us. I did not know about this.

Last weekend, my boyfriend and I were at his son's hockey game. It was the mom's week with the son, but my boyfriend and I like to go to every game he has whether or not he is with us that week. His wife's boyfriend and his parents also attend the games. My boyfriend and I were in the lobby after the game, waiting for his son to come out of the locker room so we could congratulate him on a good game.

Out of nowhere, my boyfriend's wife approaches us and remarks that it was "completely inappropriate" of him to submit a photo and then she proceeds to berate me calling me a whore, skank, etc. "She is not his family. I'm his mom!" Meanwhile I have no idea what she's talking about and I stand there idiotically asking "what photo? what are you talking about?" She threatens me that if I come to any more hockey games, she'll tell "the other wives" who I really am (she blames me for the end of their marriage). I was stunned. After that experience, my boyfriend filled me in about why she was so angry. They had texted about it earlier in the week. Apparently she never submitted her own photo so I'm sure part of the sting was not seeing a representation of herself at the musical. Anyhow, after the dust settled, I am now feeling very angry toward my boyfriend. I feel like it was irresponsible, unfair and disrespectful for him to have kept me in the dark about what was going on. I realize he couldn't have prevented her irrational behavior, but he could have spared me the embarrassment of not knowing what was going on. It showed her (and others within ear shot) that we don't really have a united front and that we don't communicate well. I'm also struggling with why she is lashing out now, two years post separation. She lives with her boyfriend and has for the past year. It makes me insecure and wonder what else my boyfriend might be hiding from me. I got so upset that I told my boyfriend not to call me again, and now we are in the midst of a 3 day cold war. I miss him terribly but I'm afraid. He says he didn't tell me about their interactions because he didn't want it to ruin our time together and also that he didn't know she'd act so inappropriately. But my position is that he should have told me regardless. Am I overreacting? Do I have a reason to be worried?View Thread

Posted by ailurophile79

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Confused and looking for support

I used to feel like i was in control of my life until recently. I was 26 at the time aspiring to be a cop...

Posted by missconfused

I used to feel like i was in control of my life until recently. I was 26 at the time aspiring to be a cop until i ripped my muscles in my arms working out one day and started to have kidney failure. I was shocked, saddened and confused on how this could even happen? was i working out too hard was there something else wrong with me I thought. Tests after tests, thinking at one point i might have MS scared me. Not to long after that after years of testing with the academy and passing two out of the three levels and finally making it to the last one my doctor told me to stop. I had to give up the dream and look for something else less strenous. I was heartbroken all the years of hard work were put to rest. Shortly after that scarrier news fell upon my ears that I had a growth in my thyroid and had to have it removed bc they kept finding cells that looked cancerous. I was like how can this be now 27 a broken person. I was terrified like what is the scare going to look like, is it gonna be cancer for sure, will my new boyfriend of only 4months stick through this mess after mess with my health? To my suprise he stayed but all of a sudden after all this stress memories of me being molested by my brother came to surface. Memories of a past boyfriend that became a petifile came to surface. I pretty much was now living in horror from past things that have happened to present medical conditions that were now evolving. I started to have visions of my now new boyfriend having sexual encounters with his past girlfriends pop up in my head. They are so vivid it makes me sick, angry, and frustrated. How can this be when my new boyfriend is nothing like my past boyfriend. I sit there and make him feel guilty for having past relationships and sexual partners when I too have had sexual partners. I know i shouldnt make him feel that way bc he never brings up the past. If anything he just sits there and begs me to stop or even says sorry. I feel so bad that if this is someone i love why am i doing this to him. I keep trying to stop my thoughts but it only makes my thoughts worse. I used to work full time and go to school full time and now its hard to even keep a job with everything going on. I am very determined so i enrolled into an intensive dbt program and im still struggling. I see a rape trauma counselor and still am having these thoughts. I dont get pleasure out of these thoughts. I dont know how i could if its about my new boyfriend eating his ex girls out or playing with sexual toys or even having sex with girls in our apartment i just recently moved into. I know that my past relationship really screwed me bc he was a constant cheater and a liar. I had no idea he slept with two teenagers and had another girlfriend on the side when we were dating at the time. Let alone of him being sick and twisted. Its been six years since we have been together and it still bugs me and if i ever see him driving i feel like i just saw the devil. My new boyfriend though is so opposite. hes selfless, loving, kind, affectionate and in my heart i know i would like to marry him and have kids but at the rate with my thoughts im hoping i dont sabatoge it. All this trauma i have been through has just turned into me being a big mess of anxiety/OCD driven thoughts thats hard to fix. I did everything that the docs, psychs have told me take even depression and anxiety meds. im so sensitive though i feel like on everyone of them i take i wanna hurt myself. it finally landed me in the psych ward for three days which i was terrified there. one more trauma added to my belt. now that im off of all meds the docs wanna put me on fluvoxamine. im scared to take anything since im so sensative. how is my body gonna react i question and is this one gonna make me feel like going crazy? i have so many questions on what to do as far as my thoughts about my new boyfriends past to me and taking meds and getting better. Someone help please!!!View Thread

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Help with husband

My issue is that... I have been married to my husband almost two years now (7 years of dating). I am so fed...

Posted by SUCCESSFUL

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Relive the cuddling marriage

My wife loves to breast feed our daughter. This bond is a little too much for me but I don't say anything...

Posted by An_246018

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Gr8 Husband

I was wondering how to enhance my sexual relationship with my wife. We are currently very overwhelmed with a few...

Posted by Gr8me

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Is husband change believable?

Ok, so I filed for divorce and my husband swore he was going to change and tried, but still had the same...

Posted by Danjo

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Emotional Affair

My husband had a emotional affair with a girl at work for the past couple of years. I found out by his cellphone....

Posted by cbear

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Depressed Husband

So I find out that my husband of MANY years is so unhappy/depressed that he is ready to leave...

Posted by YESTERDAYSCHOICE

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My girlfriend dumped me while rehabing?

We were together 2 years, I found out 6 months ago she was on drugs, all the lies and crazy amounts of text...

Posted by An_248557

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My marriage

Been together for 10 years since dating and marriage for 4. We finally had a baby girl she's 4.5 months now....

Posted by michael15

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more advice please!

These past 2 years I have swept arguments and hurt feelings under the rug. Hakuna Matata, no worries and just...

Posted by Danjo

These past 2 years I have swept arguments and hurt feelings under the rug. Hakuna Matata, no worries and just tried to focus on all the good things. Our kids, comfortable life, good friends, etc. I've tried hard to make life comfortable for my husband and children yet he still maintained an attitude that he was not happy with me or our life. He just seemed angry all the time and I felt that I was a huge source of it as everything I said and did seemed to make him upset. He maintains that he never knew I was unhappy, and if he did he would have done something, I maintain that I told him repeatedly and that he never heard or wanted to hear me.

Now he is telling me that it was politics and the economy and his need to control situations that he couldn't control that was making him so angry and mean and that that he is trying to change. He desperatly says he loves me and will do anything to keep our family together. Yet in the same sentence he says that I have problems too and I this, and I that... He is going to counseling and accepts responsibility, and has made some positive changes (like having more patience with our sons and with me and helping out more around the house.) Yet he still harbors this angry, intense, controling behavior and when I tell him how I feel, it comes out. He still acts the same when there is a "bump in the road." Angry over the little things, but now he says it's because we have a divorce looming over our heads. I keep telling him that we just need to take things one day at a time and see what happens. If he is going to change for the positive, then things will work out. But he cannot get angry at me all the time and he has to treat me with respect and kindness. I deserve that much. He says I'm asking too much from him to tell him he cannot get angry.

My question is this, am I giving him false hope? And should I give him another chance? I'm so hurt and confused.View Thread

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Feeling down about myself/sex life.....

I'm only 20. I'm seven months pregnant and engaged to the father, who is 30. When we were dating, he had a...

Posted by StacyVaughn

I'm only 20. I'm seven months pregnant and engaged to the father, who is 30. When we were dating, he had a cold sore on his lip and had gone down on me, giving me type 1 genital herpes. So combined with pregnancy hormones, and going through my third break out (after not havin want issues with it for a year+), I'm a bit emotional. There have been certain aspects of me and my finances sex life I was unhappy with before hand, and I'm feeling even more terrible about it all. I have been unhappy with the lack of foreplay, about him not ever going down on me. I have brought it up so many times, make sure I'm shaven, showered, etc, and he won't do it. I asked if he just doesn't like to, smell, taste, etc. he claims there is no reason, and he loves to do it. There have been times, talking about our pasts, and he'll for some reason, tell me about how one he went down on a girl- so on and so forth. Or one time he came from eating a girl out. I know he is older, and doesn't have a sex drive like he did as a teenager at those times, but it makes me feel really bad to hear about how other girls got want I want so bad, and I can't get him to... I recently finally stopped giving him head, but of course that doesn't really phase him, cause again he's older and doesn't care that much about sex. But I'm at my sexual peek, dammit! And now, here I have an std that won't ever go away

I feel like I'm being punished. I grew up too quick, and started having sex at a young age, so now I'm paying the price. I'm in love with someone who won't please me the way I want (even though he used to) and herpes. To top it all off, even though I'm very excited about having a baby, I'm 10 pounds too heavy. With ruined boobs. And stretch marks. I don't feel sexy at all anymore. I still want sex but when I think about it, actually coming down to it, I just get embarrassed and upset with the way I look.

I feel like I just want to give up on sex and everything to do with it, all together. I'm tired of trying to improve me and my finances sex life, and him not changing. I'm tired of having to hate the way I look and be uncomfortable to have sex. I hate not knowing when or if I'm contagious and will infect my partner.... Sigh* sorry for the rant.. Just been really upset the last couple days

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Newlywed struggles

My husband and I just got married approximately 4 months ago. We have been together for 3 years. Recently,...

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