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Once I again I would like to kindly request your opinion on my situation. I have found your input extremely helpful and really appreciate it. Ex-boyfriend called last week saying he is coming back for a weekend and wants to take me to a common friend's wedding as a date. He says he has not forgotten about me and still thinks a lot about us. All this after I have already done quite some work trying to move on with my life and put our relationship behind. Based on logic, on your replies to my post and own self conviction that this was what i needed to do. We had such good times when he was here I kept wondering why he did so much to make me happy and please me in so many ways. I felt I got what no woman has ever gotten from a man ever. But on the other hand he is confusing me with his behavior. as to what it means that he has not forgotten about me and wants to see me when everything was over when he left. I haven't agreed to be his date for the wedding I agreed to talk to him only. I want to see him in person and hear what he has to say. Needless to say I have been going crazy trying to see what I feel and what I should do. I have already RSVPed for the wedding there is no turning back on that. What are some of the things that I can for this wedding/visit something that won't hurt me. What will be the best approach to take?
Thanks again. I look forward to your replies.
back in june I wrote:
I had a relationship for three months with someone who I know from the beginning was going to leave after such time. It was clear for both of us we would not see each other ever again after that. All was wonderful and we had a great time together. He made everything so special by being caring and attentive with me. Things I never expected since we couldn't carry on with the relationship further. 2 wks prior to him leaving when I was experinsing some serious feelings for him he metioned he was possibly going to come to town in 4 months for a common friend's wedding for which I was invited also. I told him I was always under the impression that we would never see each other again. He said "I don't know". I was really upset because he was giving me hopes that we could continue when in reality that was not possible. I didn't show my anger and just told him that I didn't know either. Good bye was not easy. He kept telling me I should move on and find someone else. That he will contact me months later just to be friends. All that was said with the most straight face with no emotion whatsoever. I cried a lot not for him leaving but more at the fact that he wanted to keep me in suspense, change plans, not respect what we had planned, and minimizing my feelings by suggesting I go find another. He wrote to me a week later. Among other things that sounded condisending he said the time we spent together meant a lot to him. I want to write back and tell him i appreciate his words but also that I am upset.That I felt he didn't really value me as a person for wanting to change plans and making good bye even harder on me. It was insulting that he said I contacted his friends if I wanted to know about him. That if I wanted I could go visit him in some years ahead and meet his wife and kids. I want to be ok with him for all the wonderful things we had together but I don't think I can if I don't hear an apology from him. Should I write back and tell him how I feel or just forget about it and let him think I'm the happiest person in the world.View Thread



Thoughout our time together I avoided being involved too much by not revealing too much of myself and how I was. But at the end I wanted to do that I wanted him to know I was worth having feelings for. Then felt horrible when he didn't even showed emotion at our good bye.View Thread

When I met him as friends initially I learned he was going to be in town for a limited amount of time. Inspite of that I pursued him we started dating. Yes he travels a lot because of his job. I never intended for this to continue. (10 year age difference me being older) I don't believe in long distance relationships either. He is not married he was talking about hypothetical future wife and children. My intention was to never talk to him again. I hated he mentioned the friends wedding because he was really tempting me in to telling him to stay or do something for our relationship to work.View Thread
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