We will be heading to DH's aunt's house for Turkey Day. I really would rather spend it with my family, but I'll go along so as not to make waves. Both his aunts are sisters, who married brothers, they are half Filipino, half Irish and can be very controlling. At the same time the cousins can be a lot of fun to hang out with, but I still will breathe a sigh of relief when we are on our way home. DH invited my dad to come along with us, since he and Mom are divorced he doesn't have anyone to spend it with. I think that will be good, hopefully not awkward in any way. Christmas will be with my family, thank goodness.View Thread
Maybe you just need to work with him on this, I wonder if you could get a special storage area like a chest where he could store all his things, with a key or lock that the kids won't be able to get into. That way he can "unpack" his things and have them in the house but still safe from being messed with. Maybe offer to help him unpack or ask if he would mind if you see his things? If he's willing to show you his stuff, you might feel more a part of his past.View Thread
I for one can totally understand how men can get frustrated by women abandoning their role as a lover and settling in a little too comfortably as a mom. I've heard it said that, in a healthy family unit, the husband and wife relationship should take priority over the parent/child relationship. I think sometimes as moms we can put that child relationship above all else and then wonder why our husbands are irritated and resentful.
I'm sure most men realize that parenthood is going to be a big adjustment, but some might not know ahead of time that it means completely sacrificing their sex life.
Personally, connecting sexually with my husband is too important to put on the back burner. Sure, I have let myself go too. I'm a little overweight, and I haven't always had a shower by the time he's gotten up for the day. But I always look forward to intimate time together. It's important.
I guess I don't understand how women can be so focused on motherhood that they have little to no desire for sex. Personally, I couldn't wait for that 6 week wait to be over after our son was born. I know if my husband was all of a sudden not interested in sex, it would create a host of problems and emotional repercussions for me. So I can sure see how men would feel that way in their relationship if the woman put him on the back burner.View Thread
"I appreciated each and every thing my mom and dad did for me. I was grateful." Can I say that is definitely not typical for a teenager? I feel like I was a pretty good kid myself, but I know I pretty much just expected food, clothing, fun, etc. I never thought about the pains Mom or Dad went through to get it for me. Not until closer to early 20's.View Thread