Use an emory board on any jagged or rough skin. Or even just use a clean pair of jeans and rough wipe hands, all sides of all fingers. Then use hand lotion, and the hands will be nice and smooth.View Thread
If you are in your 40's and lack libido, that could be an early sign of heart disease. 1) See a doctor, and 2) behave as if you DO have serious heart disease. Start learning about healthy diet and appropriate exercise. You may save your own life, be there for your children, and be able to enjoy your now hyper affectionate wife.
So many men complain that their wife has no interest in sex, and you are now blessed with her wonderful desire for you.View Thread
2) I just read some about a book called NOT "Just Friends". It a has a lot of positive comments.
That your wife cheated means there are problems, either in the marriage or things she did not tell you about in her past that lead her to need someone else, or she was tempted and seduced. Some calm discussion does need to take place. Does she want to stay ? Why ? Will she do this again ? Will she just abandon you later ?
My friend at work got contacted a few months ago by a similar crazy who she had not heard from in 18 years.
She did call the police, and notified security at work. Her work phone was changed, and she already worked away from the public in a key coded area. She's upset, but I suggested to her he may be bored and knows he can pull her chain, make her worry. So maybe they are both actually pretty pathetic, both guys that is, and you just need to do your best to ignore him.
If these guys only do it to know they bug you for months, the best thing is realize that's all it is, and ignore it. Its like bad stand-up. You can ignore the guy, and he'll complain about you, but you can still ignore him, and soon, he'll be boo'ed off the stage.
Notify the police of the harassment, and they will find him and contact him. May as well tell him you are doing this, that if he ever thought it was all in fun, you long ago did not think so, that he needs to grow up and stop, and get a real life. You hope he gets therapy, and finds real happiness.
Menawhile, try to be happy with your manfriend, the folks on the internet who support you, and other family and friends. Make a point to not tell anyone else of any future contacts except the police, so trawling for information that he still bugs you never has any results.View Thread
You should protest, but its difficult.You might get some officers to start cleaning up their act with a couple simple statements or questions.
Ask this guy if he has ever heard of cel phones with video, or hand held video cameras with zoom lenses.
These guys are just asking to be filmed and reported to the news media, and off to jail they go with the same scum they are beating up. Ask him if he and his fellow officers really think they will get away with this forever. Ask him how he will feel if he loses his job for police brutality, and what it will do to his wife and kids when he is in jail. Ask him if he wants his friends on the force to go to jail over such stupidity. Ask him if he thinks such brutality might inspire these real criminals to shoot some random police officer in revenge, and would he feel at all responsible. If not ask, ask him why not.
I've not been in your situation, so I can't say if I would have the nerve. But I would see this side of it. I'm sure you don't wish for harm to come to him, but what would it do to his family if he were the random cop killed ?
Police should seek to inspire strength and respect. If the world devolves into anarchy, there will be far more criminals willing to kill people than there will be police willing to help, especially if the police are seen as bullies first, protectors of the law abiding last, if at all.
Has it occured to any police in your area that by being violent to offenders, they may inspire greater violence by the criminals on their victims ? The police may make crime worse with their behavior.
I don't believe in coddling criminals. A re-usable rope is far cheaper a solution to crime than a massive prison and guards and their salaries. Some people can be reformed, some not. But what if criminals take over the police. Seems like you have that now.View Thread
I told my friend a story from a book about a man searching for the perfect woman. To make it short, he finally found her after many years, and he proposed. The woman turned him down. She was looking for the perfect man, and he wasn't the One.
I have suggested maybe they are right for each other. Perhaps that has also made her think more. She may not be settling at all. A change might be settling due to hard-headedness, and not wanting to accept her Mr. Right.
She's hardly over the hill. I think many people have suggested she break it off. But so far its fun and convenient. One more birthday has her thinking though. She is letting time go by when she should be meeting other men, and if they don't compare to her regular, they need to change the subject of their discussion and think they may be long term Ms. and Mr. Right-For-Each-Other. If she wants happiness, she has to do something different, either in her head or her bed.
No, I said she is not really looking, which is why she is not meeting many. And she can be a man-magnet to match any I've met before. I met her and was nice to her in a down period, so she felt some trust, opens up to me. She's done more extensive alone time, off and on anyway, and has other depression issues, which being alone doesn't help. I hope my liking her without needing to sleep with her makes her feel better. She says it does. It makes for a potential long term friendship at work that would be more difficult if it was to flame up and out from having an affair.
I agree with you. She needs to not be afraid of remaining unmarried, not having kids. Have her friends. Have her lover. But be happy with all of it. if she meets that special someone that turns her life upside down, and makes those things happen, its great. If it does not happen, that has to be ok, too.View Thread