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My boyfriend now of four years has been great. He has 2 boys that live with us and 2 older girls that are nearly my age living on their own one already has 2 babies and married. We both have a lot in common I chuck that up to me growing up so fast and not being the typical 26 year old.( Give me a rocking chair on the porch vs the shot on some strangers belly anytime. )
The only main issue I have came to terms with that is really frustrating is the lack of sex. It was great the first 2 years. Then all hell happened. He lost his job of 21 years to bankruptcy we lost our dream home we just signed on and he is still currently jobless fighting this economy. He is always stressed yet never shows it. I have a nympho hell who isnt at my age? But thats the one dept he has no concern about. He is content being sexless and it is never on his mind. Ive been turned down so many times I have no self esteem left and feel like I am the problem. I am just at a lost trying to cope with this. I dont want another sexless relationship. Seems every serious relationship after 2 years it all goes to hell. Anyone have any suggestions? Besides just masturbation...you know that gets really old and boring. But thats my main issue SEX! I'd rather deal with his ADD 24/7 then deal with no sex. Which btw...he refuses medication or to admit its any other issue but stress...yet wont do anything to help it. Maybe he enjoys the misery?
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Thank you for the time. I do appreciate it. Finally a community that does not go off on you but truely provides input.
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The main question was...Are you willing to stay in a sexless relationship....considering 2 years of waiting I am turning to no if he doesn't help himself soon. I paid for all his health care and bills to help him through his "depression" and ADD. I bought the kids christmas and such because his @ home job does not bring in nearly enough money. I work a very stressful job in health Insurance and simply my de stresser is sex.
I don't feel guilty after waiting so long to say no I need sex and I'm sorry I love you but bye. As he would say "I wouldn't blame you" When I hear stuff like that it really dampers stuff like he wishes I would leave so that he didn't have to deal with it.
Ive learned that everyone has typically blamed me in the relationship for its downfalls. Everyone feels sorry for the 43 year old man that lost his 21 year job. I get that but 2 years later that should not be it at all. I am 26 and working 60 hour weeks to make sure the kids are cared for *mind you these are not my children* and that the house is taken care of.
But these are my issues to deal with I guess. My decisions to make.
I just appreciate yall giving input. Thank you.View Thread
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