Yes, too much just banging away and feeling like you're getting nowhere can be a bit much. But we both seem to enjoy lots of kissing, touching, nibbling, and mixing up the speed, intensity, positioning, etc. More of what seems to get him worked up for a while, then changing it up a bit to more of what I prefer, which keeps him hard but doesn't push him over the edge.
Not that we don't like the same things, but I love it really slow and deep and he gets more worked up by faster and shallow (TMI?). Of course, there's always the in-between where we're both going crazy! LOL
I might should also add that mine is a fairly new relationship. So, if you've been with this same person for 20 years perhaps some of the 'shine' has worn off.View Thread
You wake up earlier than her, correct? Are you opposed to 'middle of the night' sex on your end or her end or both? For example, do you hate the thought of kissing her with morning breath - or whatever?
I ask b/c if you're getting up earlier than her anyway, AND she's open to middle of the night sex, perhaps you could go to bed at a time that's more convenient for you, wake up a little earlier and have sex before you start your day. Yes, you would have just been sleeping, but perhaps you will feel rested and not like you're having your sleep interrupted. It would be more like middle of the night sex for her b/c she could go back to sleep if she wanted. She also might be more relaxed and open to the idea of sex having not just finished a long day.
You also might get more foreplay by waking her up slowly, surprising her and building her up from a point where she wasn't expecting sex.
My current partner can orgasm/ejaculate and immediately be right back inside me ready to do it again. Sometimes it's a couple of times in just a few minutes and sometimes we go for hours at a time. I don't think we've hit 5 yet, but the last marathon session was 3 or 4. He doesn't say he's just letting out a little, he's just able to stay hard and it happens again and again.
Curious why you have to go to bed at the same time. Just because you hope she'll be in the mood and therefore you wait till she's ready?
I can sorta see hoping to 'get lucky', but not getting enough sleep, on top of not having sex and/or having your hopes/anticipations dashed, and still having to go to work and hold up those responsibilities as well as your household duties, can't make the situation any better.
Or maybe that's just me. I've always had a need for more sleep than most folks, so I was almost always in bed before my former husband.View Thread