Your guest room sounds wonderful, FCL--my sister has something very similar. I call it her 'cave'--an interior room with no windows, thick walls, & well sealed doors--so it's partially soundproofed with no lights at all unless she turns them on.
My fiance isn't a heavy sleeper unless he's exhausted, but I'm quiet enough that I can still walk around/open doors where he is without waking him up. However, I usually try to make sure there's at least one room's worth of distance between wherever I'm making noise & he's sleeping, just in case. I'm an incredibly light sleeper (unless I'm sick or exhausted), but I'm generally good-natured about the fact that I'll get accidentally woken up--repeatedly--as long as you let me go back to sleep.
We've surprised each other with breakfast in bed a couple of times...and in his case, it takes strategy. I'm a light enough sleeper I'll wake up when he leaves, or when I hear him puttering around in the kitchen, then I'll smell food, and come out to investigate. I ruined 'breakfast-in-bed' 4 times that way--then one day he succeeding by fixing a fruit tray the night before while I was having a Lord of the Rings marathon, putting it in the fridge before I saw it, and bringing it to me the next morning. He had this absolutely adorable expression of triumphant glee on his face from finally being able to pull it off View Thread
Elle0317 and Anmar22 , my deepest sympathies...I think anyone who hasn't experienced miscarriage has a hard time even trying to comprehend how devastating the pain can be--physically, emotionally, & mentally. I hope I never go through it again.
I was alone when mine happened~I'd been running a really high fever (104, peaked at 106), & when it was finally brought down, I was released, and went home. I thought the worst was over. I was wrong.
The pain woke me in the middle of the night~a rhythmic, tearing agony of contractions. I managed to crawl out from my bloody sheets to the bathroom, into the tub, then had a nervous breakdown while the bathwater turned pink around me. My baby died that night.
I wasn't that far along; 2 months, 3 1/2 weeks...but I still remember the emptiness, the absolute desolation. No parent should have to outlive their child, and mine died before she even had a chance to live. I've had well-meaning people tell me that miscarriage is sometimes the body's way of dealing w/ a pregnancy when something's wrong with the baby...but in my case, there was something wrong with me. My fever killed her.
To this day, I still have nightmares about my baby burning inside me. To this day, I still wonder if there was something, anything, I could have done to save her. I don't know if I have the strength to go through a similar experience again, and I hope I never have to find out.View Thread
I'm really looking forward to being able to date my fiance again, the whole living 1,000 miles apart thing blows. I'll get to see him for a couple of days during Winter Break, and we're already dreaming about what we'll do for our dates and visit during that time. We've been together for nearly 6 years now, & like candy352 & kristinmarie722, we feel we're never too old, or too established as a couple to date.
Even after we're married, we still plan on date nights~it's great, it's romantic, it's fun, and it's a special way of clearing the evening/day for the one you love & keeping the spark alive...it's something to get excited about & look forward to. We've done double dates at restaurants, Main Event, A-Kon, midnight movie premieres, ect...but our favorites are the times when we can focus on each other.View Thread
Queston, I fit number 3~and Lord help anyone who casts aspersions on my DF for me doing most of the 'manly' things. He's capable of it, he just doesn't like it & I do. Steph, I couldn't agree more And FCL--I know exactly where you're coming from. Splitting logs or tree-trimming is amazing if I have some stress or anger I want to work out, and I enjoy DIY home-repair, too.
My future MIL was fairly taken aback when DF brought me over to help them with some remodeling--I was miter cutting, sanding, gluing in baseboards, refinishing cabinets, laying & caulking tile, de-clogging sinks & fixing toilets, then painting and trimming. His mom was horrified by how 'unfeminine' my behavior was.
Both sets of parents probably worry about us--DF's mom actually asked him if I was perhaps a trifle butch (her way of asking if he was sure I wasn't a lesbian) after the remodeling. My own mom & dad believe that EVERYTHING to do with the care & maintenance of the home we will eventually live in is my responsibility. When I told them DF occasionally cooks for me, they believed they'd failed as parents.
Thankfully, my DF is self-sufficient, and together we've worked out a more balanced approach. We love the fact that our help is appreciated and not taken for granted, and every little thing & task we do for each other is a demonstration of much how we care. He's a bit OCD on his laundry though, & prefers I keep my hands off unless I'm taking it off View Thread
Not married yet, but we don't exactly have traditional gender roles...We're both very self-sufficient, and I'm the least 'domestic' of the two of us. My mom was absolutely horrified when I told her that I wasn't going to be folding DF's laundry when we got married because he knew how to do it himself. She just gave me this blank, uncomprehending stare and said, "Well then, why would he marry you?"
Even worse, she was serious.
Please don't ask me to explain how she thought my refusal to fold my potential hubby's boxers would equal him saying, "That's it, the wedding's off." I don't get it. DF knows he's not getting a maid when he marries me & he knew it before he proposed. He's getting a companion & a partner in life--we share responsibility, even in domestic matters. We both take care of our own personal effects, we both earn a living wage, we both cook, clean, and can do basic home repairs and gardening. We don't divide things into Women's Work or Men's Work, they're just tasks and chores--& like with FIYE's relationship, they're taken on by the most able, skilled, or interested, not divided by gender.View Thread
LOL, Guard...If that was a serious question, here's the answer:
It's not necessarily that they're 'taking on' anything, they've just stopped hiding it. Think about it this way--If a woman is pregnant by a hairy beast of a man, that man is supplying half the genetic material to ALL their offspring, male and female. If the dad (or mom) was exceptionally hairy, chances are the daughter will be a little more furry than she'd like as well.
I had some friends in HS with just that situation. The son was thrilled to start getting 5 0'clock shadow in 8th grade; the girls...not so much. They started using nair, shaving gel, razors, and bleaching kits religously at 13 to hide the fact that they had mustaches, sideburns, and other unwanted body hair.
Some of the inmates may be making the conscious decision to let those particular grooming habits slide...in which case, they're not taking on anything; they've merely stopped hiding and suppressing what was already there.View Thread
Welcome back Pi! I missed 'seeing' you around the boards--thanks for sharing the news that you went to the wedding after all and had a blast It sounds absolutely wonderful, I'm glad you like the extended family and friends...in short, I'm just plain thrilled for you!
The latest news on my end is that I moved--at least I'm now in the same state as my fiance. He'll be driving to see me during winter break & spend a few days before making the rounds to other friends & family. Also--I got published!!! It's still enough to make me giddy. My debut historical romance novel is out on Amazon, B&N, Smashwords, and AllRomanceEbooks, but it still feels like a dream over here...
Anyway, I'm very happy you've returned. You have been missed, Pi; it's great to have you back!View Thread
Just out of curiosity started by comments in another thread...when it comes to rings, do you prefer clear stones (white diamonds, sapphires, topaz, CZ, ect), or colored ones? And would your preference change in regard to wedding bands/engagement rings?
I truly don't care for diamonds...my favorite stones are ammolite, black opal, mystic topaz, topaz, sapphire, amethyst, tanzanite, alexandrite, Tibetan moonstone, high quality labradorite, and pearl. I love bling, but I like it to be colored from the twilight & oceanic shades of the spectrum
For my wedding set, I'd love mystic topaz flanked by sapphire and topaz accents set in white gold--it would suit my taste and personality much more than a diamond band, no matter how beautiful.
Does anyone else have a preference for colored stones? And would your preference carry over into a wedding set?View Thread