I second FCL. I've actually told my fiance that I DON'T want diamonds--in either of my rings.
I meant it, and thankfully he seems to be listening to me. I don't care for them, I think they're ridiculously over-priced thanks to DeBeer's stranglehold on the market, I don't like large stones in rings, and if he reeeeaallly wants to give me a hunk of ice for my finger, it had better be imitation or a different stone. Personally, I'd prefer the money be used for our honeymoon or home.
Listen to your wife, and if you really want to do something to show you care, there are much better ways to do so than buying a gaudy replacement to something she already loves.View Thread
In addition to Spankyrae's excellents points, I'm of the opinion that that human sexuality is based on upbringing, genetics, development, life choices, ect...but human sensuality is something different, and far more basic. The need to touch and be touched is visceral; and human body is built with an enormous capacity for giving and receiving pleasure--women seem to get the better end of that stick more often than not.
When forcibly deprived of the possibility for human companionship, friendship, intimacy, ect with the desired gender, rather than continue to do without the fulfillment and expression of some visceral human needs, some women will choose to explore their only remaining options to cope, while others internalize it. When removed from such a limiting, restricted environment, they may return to their original preference. I don't consider such behavior as a true change in sexuality, purely for the reason that the switch most likely would not have happened outside of those extreme conditions, and it often only endures as long as the restricted environment. However, I do consider the behavior to be an expression of human sensuality.View Thread
I would, though I'd be dreading the day when a family member found my contributions & decided to rake me over the coals for what I've written here (Family is uber-conservative & sexually repressed...mom & dad would probably itch to disown me).
On-line anonymity is vitally important for forums like these, when people are struggling for advice on concerns or issues they're either unable, or unwilling to express to friends and family--the entire reason many may post is BECAUSE it's anonymous; what they post will not follow them into real life. Stripping that away solely in an attempt to get rid of a few trolls who can be suppressed by other means is overkill, IMOView Thread
For me, it comes down to respect. Personally, I'd end my relationship before stepping outside it, and chances are I'd end my relationship long before scanning for a replacement. When a relationship deteriorates, I try to fix it, then end it if it isn't working out--and it takes me quite a while to even consider a relationship or intimacy with anyone else.
Monogamy comes naturally to me; when I'm in a relationship, I don't see other people as potential partners--I already have one. I'm also possessive enough that I expect monogamy in return. I am not going to willingly share someone in that way, and I will end a relationship if I've been cheated on. Forgiveness isn't the same as tolerance, and I have no tolerance for infidelity, being betrayed, or people who break their word. A partner who cheats on me is guilty of all three.View Thread
At this point, a romantic getaway destination for my fiance and I would be anywhere where we could spend some time together. You could stick us in a Wal-Mart parking lot & it might as well be Paris--all we want is to get through the year and be in each other's arms again. Long distance is driving me crazy.
I know one day he wants to take me camping on a mountain owned by the Boy Scouts...I'm not sure how that's going to work or if we'll need to sneak in, but he says there's a clearing with a lake nestled halfway up the mountain looking out over a valley, about 4,000 ft above sea level, where you can see for miles. It's his favorite place on earth, and he wants to share it with me.
I want to take him to Greece, specifically, Ios Island in the middle of the Ionian sea. Just a speck on the map, tiny, reserved, practically forgotten by tourists and natives alike, with some of the most glorious beaches and turquoise blue water I've ever seen. Athens and Santorini are just a ferry ride away, so we can still see some nightlife & tourist traps before heading back to our private island paradise.View Thread
My mom always did role-call and belt-check with us...she made sure we were all in the car, then she made us all tug on the lap strap of the sibling next to us to make sure the belt was well and truly fastened. My dad didn't. One day while riding with him, my baby sister was nearly ejected out of the front wind shield when some rammed the car they were in from behind. She hit the dash instead. After that he was a bit more careful--he wanted to hear each individual click as the belts were fastened.View Thread
Like caramelskin01, abuse is a hot spot for me. Especially abuse against a woman by a man. I don't avoid those topics, but I'll generally post my opinion, then bow out of the discussion.
Vividness of posts doesn't necessarily bother me...simply because reading those threads brings back the worst that's happened to me, regardless of the level of violence. It's like a switch flips inside me, and I'm taken back to nights where I was beaten, abducted, assaulted, and attacked. No matter what the poster wrote--whether it was she got pushed, or she was sent to the hospital--the visceral response level remains the same. Intellectually, I know there's a difference in the level of violence visited upon the victim, but emotionally, as I sit by the computer screen, the confession of abuse brings the memories of my own flooding back---no holds barred.
It is an unwelcome effect, and it's fairly traumatizing...but I'll still try helping. On nights like that I don't sleep. I'll step in with my two cents...then after that, I'll leave it up to the OP. Most of the abuse threads involve the majority of responders giving the same advice anyway. I can't stand to read the thread, then listen to someone try to talk themselves into being a victim, to try convincing themselves, despite all of the advice and encourgement they're given here, to go back or stay with the monsters that hurt them.
I'll throw in my two cents, but I can't make them save themselves, and I refuse to watch a downward spiral.View Thread
I'm soooo excited I just felt I had to share the news. One of the reasons I've been so stressed & sleep deprived lately is that in addition to my new job, I've been hammering out the last details for a historical romance I wrote before it went live on Amazon.com....and now, after all my hard work, it's finally up