My fiance has a high drive & is my first...it blindsided both of us when I wound up having a higher drive than him. It's caused some problems for us since I'm still left wanting more even after he's exhausted. It's actually been over 6 months since I've truly been satisfied. I try to be nice about it since I know the final semester of school is really stressing him out & his drive has gotten even lower...
I make sure he's satisfied...but at the same time, my own enjoyment is going down. I just can't bring myself to get excited about something when I know it won't be enough, and I know the more excited I get, the more frustration and pain I'll experience when he finishes while I'm just warming up. I miss the intimacy and closeness we used to have, and I hope we'll have it again, because I honestly can't see spending the rest of my life this way. As it stands, I get more of a buzz from cuddling and snuggling than when we make love. I dread sex because every one-sided encounter is a reminder of what I've lost.
It hurts to be left wanting...it's an actual physical & emotional ache. I miss him, I need him. Unfortunately, he's just not there for me. I'd say I think about making love more now than ever because I know what I'm missing, and I miss that sense of connection, of love, of being cherished.....I miss him. We've talked about it, and I know he's doing his best, but it's like I have an absentee partner. Everything I do gets sucked into a void, and while it's kept him from drowning this semester, I think I've gone under instead. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that his graduation will bring things back on track.View Thread
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