I am writing in regards to sexual relationships. I don't really have anyone to ask but friends, and very little family. I would like to see what other peoples opinions are. So here goes....I am 47 and my husband is 52. We got married in 2011. It seems in the last year that are sexual relations have went down. At times, I am ok with that to a point. I always feel that I need to initiate it. I have talked to my husband numerous times and we seem to get nowhere! He has told me that it is his weight. I have lost like 35 lbs. in the last 2.5 years and he has gained some during this time. I am facing surgery, but soon as this gets down and over, I want (and will) continue to do what I was doing before to lose weight. Everyone needs to find what works for them, and the way I do seems to work for me (H20 mostly) but he is not a water person. I do want to walk and plan on including him. So this may all work out. My question, any advice on how to cope with his problem about his weight? I have told him I still find him attractive, etc. I don't know what else to do to get him to initiate himself and make me feel wanted. Also, what do you feel is average in how many times a week you have sexual relations? Is it even every week at this age? That is a BIG question I have. Friends my age talk 3 times a week....yeah...not me! Thanks for any suggustions/advice you can offer.View Thread
Thank you all for your ideas/advice. I thought I was the only one out there. I need to think about everything you said and I may reply again, or have more questions. In mean time I will think this over and NOT give up. Our marriage, love and commitment for each other is strong. So it is just a matter of working this out where we are both happy, physicially, mentally and sexuality. Thank you all~~View Thread
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