It's such a hard situation to be in - you really have my sympathy. I guess it's easy to say from my perspective but I'd leave him. Especially if you don't have kids yet. He's proven he is irresponsible, he hides things from you (no matter what it is) and neither of those things are a good foundation for a life partnership. At the very least, let him know that if he wants to be with you, you need to know he is honest and up front as you are. Come clean about snooping and tell him why.View Thread
You might want to try encouraging him to cuddle and be affectionate in other ways so you still feel loved. So many guys are only physically affectionate during sex that if they can't have standard penetrative sex they give up on physical affectionate.
Both of you would benefit by reminding yourselves that ED is a medical condition, like any other, and it doesn't affect how attractive either of you is. He needs to realize that ED doesn't make him any less of a man, any more than a broken arm would. He also needs to realize that it's no excuse for neglecting both of your needs.
You can still kiss, hug, enjoy oral, be loving, and do any number of fun and enjoyable things while working on a cure for his ED. Shame needs to be kicked out of the window. Doing that would make both partners feel better, healthier, and more loved.
One thing he needs to understand is, when he comes home from work, at least he can leave his work at work. You are in your workplace all the time. You can't leave it behind. It's the same problem people have who work at home.
I like the idea of letting him watch the baby while you either get a break or do other stuff. Besides, he's missing out if he never takes care of the kids! It's an opportunity for him, not a penalty. I hope he can see it that way. Maybe if you come at it as "can you help me with this? If you do, I'll feel a lot better" rather than seeming like you are complaining. Arouse his protective instincts. Don't hint, just ask as if you have a right to the help, because you do.
Even though I am the working one in my relationship, there are still things I come home and do that are "my jobs." I feed and water the cats, I take out the garbage, I get the mail, things like that. My spouse does the cooking and part of the cleaning. Even though she stays home all the time I still do part of the cleaning.View Thread
Loss of sex drive often accompanies relationship troubles. It can also be a result of depression. And it can happen when you have a lot of stress or health issues. You can definitely get used to no sex, and it can be difficult at times to get used to it again, especially because you might have a subconscious desire not to feel that lack if you hit another dry spell.
Paying attention to your physical health as well as the health of your relationship, will help a lot. If you are having trouble being mentally connected to your partner then you will have trouble feeling relaxed enough to be intimate. Finally, sometimes you just need something new and interesting to help your sex drive return. A racy series of novels, a little experimentation, a few hot texts, can do wonders.View Thread
It might help if you explained that religion is a personal choice and no one should be forced to be baptized before they have the ability to say yes or no. Baptism is an important decision for many and you are giving your baby the gift of choice.View Thread