However to me it sounds as though she is still trying to hold on to him. cwgirl, although you state things are over, they really are not in your mind. Weigh the good times vs. the bad with this man and do your best to place him in the past where he belongs. Like Guard said this could have turned violent and you could have become a victim to more than just emotional abuse.View Thread
The reason I mention that is because playstations and Ipod's are not cheap, and if he is not contributing to the family, other than what you mentioned, maybe you should take away his play things since you appear to be the sole provider in the marriage. If he wants to act like a child treat him like one.
Based on what you have stated it it sounds like he wants to be responsible for himself and all else doesn't really matter.
You have more than proven your character and it is now time for him to step it up and prove his.View Thread
I do understand the doubts that the past turmoil has brought front and center in your mind. I would feel the same way. You want to follow your " rational " mind, and place the trust that has been gained within the past year. So I have to ask during this recovery phase has there ever been moments when he was away that suspicions got the best of you , and if so how did you cope ? I do not know the nature of his business but is it possible to make phone contact with him at these job sites during those working hours ? Perhaps that would be one way for you to put your mind at rest ? However, I suspect he may feel like he's on the defensive if indeed you were calling him , and needed reassurances. You know him best and can probably predict his response, but on the other hand it may just be the best way to cure the suspicion? Whatever you decide to do, best of luck.View Thread