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opinions on pornography and marriage

I would just like some input and oppinions from everyone on how you feel about porn...

Posted by skeeterman7708

I would just like some input and oppinions from everyone on how you feel about porn and tell me if my thoughts are justified or if i'm being a man in denial. I feel like my wife has a rather strong oppinion of porn and considers too many things to be porn. I feel like she's overreacting a lot and that I don't have a problem, along with a lot of others, who have been labeled as someone who has an "addiction" to porn. First, let me tell you all about myself. I've got an app on my phone called "the chive." The show lots of funny pictures that you can download and exchange via text or post to your facebook. A lot of the pictures are really positive, such as heart warming stories of soldiers and people battling deseases. But, there are some slides that show females in bikini's and other risky clothing. I do look at these pictures, but it's not like it's the first thing that I go to when i pull up the app and I can seriously go throughout the day and not be bothered if I didn't look at them. I also like Maxim, which shows girls posing. I look at them, but also really enjoy the stories. My wife is extremely oppinionated on this issue and makes comments that it's porn. I feel like she has a strong misconception of what porn really is. Am I wrong to feel this way? I've also developed another theory on porn, which i'm sure will get numerous positive and negative reactions. I don't think porn is an issue, unless it interferes with your marriange, your work, or your kids. I also feel like, the only reason why porn is an issue, is because it's considered a problem with the church community. I've been to church before and have listened to testimonies of people talking about their addiction to porn. I just feel like churches have made this problem worse than it actually is, along with women who no longer feel attractive. My wife, goes to church a lot and also feels unattractive. Before everyone jumps on that, I do try my hardest to compliment her and ensure to her that I still find her attractive. I guess, to make my post short, I feel like porn is only an issue because of churches and wives with no confidence. My reasoning behind this, is that I've seen and heard of so many couples where the husband or boyfriend tells me that their spouse doesn't view it as an issue. I even know some, whom their wives have bought them a subscription to Playboy. My brother and one of my best friends, both have recordings of HBO's show about the Bunny Ranch on their DVR, and they watch it with their spouse. My brother is the most normal person that I know, and I know he doesn't have an addiction. I think that people that are seriously addicted are the ones who have been fired for looking at it at work, or that would rather watch porn than make love to their spouse, or that can't go a day without looking at it. It just seems like everyone that I know that has been labeled a porn addict, is labeled by a church community or a spouse with no confidence. Sorry, if i'm rambling on. It just urks me when i'm looking at Maxim or "the chive," and my wife makes comments like, "oh, I know why you're looking at that." Should I be mad, or is her complaint justified?View Thread

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thanks everyone for their comments. I can see from many of your comments that my...

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I care about my wife's feelings, but at the same time, I'm not going to allow her to...

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so you don't think she's overracting just a tad? I just read stories of porn addicts...

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I think I was venting more than anything. Everyone that I've discussed this with,...

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I actually mentioned the cooking classes to her last night and it kind of went in...

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it was tough getting through the grocery situation. that was the first time that I...

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it was tough getting through the grocery situation. that was the first time that I had ever put my foot down and stood my ground with groceries. I hate to be a tightwad, but it's just not easy to support an entire family. Her job pays her car note, and child care, and every other bill i pay for. We both know that being a stay at home mom is completely out of the question because she is too much of a busy body, and it would driver her crazy. i almost thought about letting her assume the responsibility of paying bills and doing the grocery shopping. i don't think she fully understands how difficult it is sometimes when we've got birthday gifts we've got to get, trips to the dr. office, medication, pay for gas, gifts for any other type of holidays, and then somehow have a budget in mind when grocery shopping. After all of our bills are paid, it seems like we've got a bunch of money in the account, but it's so easy to go right through it on things like this, and the more we have, the more times something comes up that requires cash. i do make most of the decisions in the household. we both look at furneture, and if we find something we like, i'll do some research about it's quality. We have to do that because if it were up to my wife, she would just get the first thing she saw that looked nice. She did that with our entertainment center and it fell apart in no time. She often makes fast decisions that she doesn't think about, and i'm the opposite. A good example is; one time she needed a car when we first got married. Her engine blew up and we needed one pretty quick. we went to a dealership that was supposed to save a car that we had looked at the previous day, and when we got there he had already sold it. We drove around trying to find something like it and she found an ungly
pt cruiser that i could tell she didn't like and that it didn't catch her eye, but she said, i'll just get this one. She had gotten that discouraged and was so desperate to have a new vehicle that she was willing to committ to something for 5 years that she didn't even like. I told her no and that we'd look around some more. She was mad at me, and the next day i found a car that was nicer than the one that we had planned to get her, and it was cheaper than the PT cruiser. needless to say, she was happy that I had went against her on that.View Thread

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yes, shopping hard is very smart. It's easier if you know how to cook good and learn...

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thank you!! I feel like i'm doing the right thing, but it's always good to have...

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think parenting classes would do us very good. She does read the "what to expect...

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