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MissCaptainKirk

Joined: 06/20/2011

My Story:

I like sunshine, and mystical creatures, and breakfast cereal, and the Disney Princesses.
I want to live near an ocean but I'm land-locked. I would settle to live near a lake.
I have many strange health issues.
My best friend is a stuffed bear named Peter Panda.
Yes I am an adult.
No I am not crazy.
I only dance when no one is looking.
I will be your friend if you need one.

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Reply: Husband Vent

-This may post twice, sorry if it does - I read all three spouse vents (queston,...

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-This may post twice, sorry if it does -
I read all three spouse vents (queston, tmlmtlrl, guardsquealer) and I empathize with all of you. It is tough when the romantic aspect of your relationship is either on life support or dead.

I feel exactly like tmlmtlrl. To quote Megan Fox, "I have the libido of a fifteen-year-old boy." I love lingerie as well, but i gave up wearing it for his pleasure a long time ago when not only did he not take notice of it, but when I brought it up he told me to stop buying it because it was a waste of money.
WHAT?

Can someone please explain to me the libido of a man, because I thought they were usually up for sex (no pun intended) most of the time. Unless, of course, they are tired or emotionally distraught, or watching sports on TV.

And personally my husband doesn't work weird hours and we don't have kids and we see each other pretty often. So I just chalk it up to the porn addiction and wear the lingerie for my own enjoyment.

But I know you guys also mentioned just romantic quality time in general, and I feel you on that one too. The romance is dead. At least I can still get him to go on dates with me because I pay for my half. But it usually ends up sucking anyway so I don't even want to go on dates.

And it's kind of tough because the rest of our relationship is improving a lot and I don't want to overlook that. I have had a couple discussions with him about how I feel about the romantic/sex aspect and told him I don't want to ignore how good the other parts of our relationship are getting. But a woman wants to feel desired.

tmlmtlrl, I know how you feel about your sexual frustration making you grumpy. I've gotten a little short with people at work this past week which I never do so I'm trying to be extra nice to make up for it lol.
When I'm like tired or falling asleep I definitely have a lot of fantasies which I never had before, I think it is because usually consciously I try not to think about those things but when I'm tired my brain takes over and goes crazy, lol.

Anyway all this to say that I know how you guys feel and I feel the same way. I look for every opportunity for romance. I purposely get us into romantic situations where there could be fireworks but...not even a spark...
I DON'T GET IT.
I feel bad for you guys, and totally understand y'all's frustrations.

Keep venting, it's good for you. I feel a little better anyway.

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Reply: My "Parents"

Hi friend, I don't have a ton of time to write but I was just checking in and saw...

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Reply: confused..

Well dear, that's just the thing. There will be really great times, which I'm sure...

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Reply: NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Pretty good. Just chuggin along on the railroad track that is my life. My husband...

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Reply: confused..

Hey there. I don't have much time to post on this board very often but I've sort of...

Posted by MissCaptainKirk

Hey there. I don't have much time to post on this board very often but I've sort of been trying to follow the threads to see how people are doing. I've followed this one and today I read through everything. I know I'm posting late in the game here, but I would like to help you if I can.

Reading your posts makes me so sad. Your story is so incredibly similar to mine. We are even the exact same age! The difference is that I am married, and you are not. You have made no vows to stay with him forever. You have no reason to stay with him.

I know it's rough, becomes sometimes he's so nice and sweet and makes you feel wonderful, and acts like the man you fell in love with. And you feel like there's some hope.
And then other days he's so horrible and mean and you wonder why you're still with him and you feel miserable.
Please learn from my experience - this continuous cycle will only make you hard-hearted and you won't believe in true love anymore. It's tragic.

You need to get out immediately, and I understand how hard it is to find somewhere to stay. But it is possible. It may not seem like an extreme enough situation to go to somewhere like a women's shelter, but it is.

There is nothing you can do to help your fiancee change at this point. You need to get away, and build yourself up in the places he has broken. You need to be very strong, and then you will see that you are better off on your own.
I know you see potential for him to change, and he may truly have that potential. But he is not going to change until he decides he needs to change. You can't convince him to do that, and it's not your responsibility. And if you stay and he continues to abuse you, you're not only hurting yourself but him too. You're teaching him that it's ok to act like this. So if you truly love him, you have to leave him. That seems ridiculous but it's true.

I have gone through absolute hell and I would like for you to take advantage of that, and please know that I understand all the emotions you're feeling. It's going to feel like your heart is broken when you leave and you're going to miss him A LOT. It's going to hurt.

But you have to get away, and don't look back. Ask friends to help you stay strong in this. And keep posting on here as much as you need to. The people here are some of the best people in the world and they stuck with me through everything; they will stick with you.

Let us know how you're doin, k? I will try to stick around and post more.

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Reply: NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Hey darlyn, thank you for posting these resources. I (and I'm sure many others)...

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Reply: Question for those who have divorced...

I feel for you, I really do. I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going well. I...

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Reply: Married and confused

I agree with 3point14, you don't have to be ashamed of these feelings/thoughts. I...

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Reply: Hey Pi...

Oh my freaking gosh I agree with queston. You're so beautiful! And hot! And I,...

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Reply: Another Causulity of War...My 2nd Cousin

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Keepin you in my thoughts and...

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