I just wanted to share some happy news with you guys. Valentine's Day evening was so shockingly amazing. We dressed up real fancy and went to a cheap restaurant to symbolize how we can have a good time anywhere.
At the restaurant, he apologized for not getting me a really meaningful or nice gift in a very long time. And he handed me a little box and I opened it and it was a gorgeous necklace. It came from the same store where out friends got us our wedding rings. The necklace matches my engagement ring/wedding ring (which I wear together). I about cried in the restaurant.
He also never once mentioned money or complained about anything. He again apologized because he hadn't taken me on a date in a very long time too and he hoped I had a wonderful time. Which I made sure to tell him how much I loved it!
At about this time my mind had been blown to smithereens by shock. This was a huge step for him and it was so encouraging. I think he will continue on this path to change and I really look forward to who he will become.
I just want to thank you all for all of the advice and help you've given me. He and I still have a long way to go in repairing our relationship but I have a lot of hope and I see our date as a great sign.
Again, thanks guys.
I went on a date!!!!!!!!! And it was romantic!!!!!!!!!!!! <3View Thread
I'm glad to hear that you guys are doing all of those important spiritual things. I'm not a traditional Christian but I'm a believer, and I think that keeping Jesus at the center of your relationship is the best thing you can do. Having purity, truth, and unconditional love as the foundation for your family is a great start for the future you're going to build together.
I'm very proud of you for being so strong and handling this situation so well. You are very inspirational. <3View Thread
Hey I just realized maybe I sounded like I was bragging just because I like to wear lingerie. My friend gives me lots of coupons and my other friends give me gift cards so I save em all up and get it all for free most of the time and I like how it makes me feel and celebrates me being a woman and stuff.
But other women like to celebrate their womanhood in other ways. Maybe your wife needs to be made to feel sexy in other ways before she'll be comfortable in lingerie.
And I'd like to agree strongly with FCL that when she does wear lingerie, it'd help to make a big deal out of it. It's a little nerve-wracking sometimes to be dressed up in that getup and if you don't make a big deal about how great she looks in it and take some time to take it off, it's really really depressing.
In short, there's a heck of a lot of emotions/feelings that can go into a woman putting on lingerie for you. For most women it's not just like putting on nice clothes (you mentioned how she likes to look nice when you go out, but not in the bedroom). When she's wearing that stuff, she's putting it all out there. So just keep what FCL said in mind. View Thread
Gosh dude, not sure what to tell you. Is it possible she has body image issues? She may like to dress up but that's when she's out in public in full clothing. Maybe she's self conscious of her actual body. Like does she wear two-piece swimsuits in summer and stuff?
And maybe she doesn't wear the thongs or whatever bcuz they aren't comfortable for her. I wear em bcuz for me they're more comfortable and I like em, but all women are different. Maybe get sexy-looking underwear/items in styles that you like/think are sexy but also that may be more comfortable for her to wear. (Like hiphuggers with a lot of lace, or satin babydoll nightgowns or something. Start with stuff that isn't too racy so that she feels more ok with her body in it.)
Also, it's great that you think she's beautiful. Do you tell her she's beautiful and you like her body? Sometimes just hearing it can boost a lot of confidence.
Don't know how many times a year married couples with children have sex so someone with experience will have to help you on that one. But you have pretty young kids and she works, I'm sure she's often tired and maybe just not "feelin it".
No clue if any of this helps and I could be wrong, but hopefully it helps!View Thread
My husband never asks me to wear lingerie and I think he's rather indifferent about it, but I wear it pretty often anyway and sometimes even just part of an "outfit" around the house and stuff. If he wanted me to wear something specific I would (I think it'd be fun).
And I'd like to have sex almost every night (unless there's something circumstantial) but that doesn't happen. But I'm pretty young and I don't have children so who knows, my feelings on that'll probably change later on. And maybe the lingerie thing will too but I doubt it.
Which one of you works FT and which one works PT?View Thread
I don't have kids so I can't help out entirely but I'm just wondering, does your wife have trouble sleeping or insomnia? Maybe she's exhausted in the morning because she can't sleep at night.View Thread
Wow, it's been really interesting to read all the different kinds of plans. The theme seems to be that people are keeping it low-key. Which gave me this idea:
I think for V-Day I'll suggest that we dress up (because we both love dressing up) but go to a real inexpensive place like the local pizza shop or Dairy Queen or something, just to sort of symbolize how we can have fun going anywhere and it's nice to go out all dressed up but just being out together is most important.
And he loves Fanny May dark chocolate buttercreams so I'll get those for him. I told him I would like flowers and he said that he got me something so I'm pretty sure I'm getting flowers which is wonderful. And I bought some lingerie which to be honest is mostly for me because I love it and I had like 3 coupons for it lol, couldn't pass up that deal. And also I just want to feel sexy on V-Day. And my sister-in-law got me a real pretty dress for my graduation gift which I'll wear! So excited.
So that's my plans, I'm very happy about it. And thank you all for sharing yours! I always love finding out more about you guys. I hope you all enjoy tomorrow whether you're celebrating or not. I wish you all a good day! <3View Thread