Valentine's Day is coming up, and I was wondering what y'all are doing to celebrate the holiday?
My friend suggested I write down exactly what I'd like to do for V-Day in a romantic-note sort of way and give the note to my husband so that he knows what I'd like and can maybe make some plans. I was wonderin what you guys are doin, a) to get some ideas and b) because I'm a sucker for real-life mushy romantic stories. View Thread
If the anon is talking about being confused by mommy2510's story then I have to second that. There is a huge chunk of information missing in the middle somewhere. If you don't mind, can I ask how you went from being so shocked and hurt by this guy to getting back together with him? I do not mean to be insensitive at all to your story, I'm just really wondering what caused the transition.
Also, Mommyof3, I hope you're doin ok today.View Thread
So sorry for your loss, alaska_mommy. I cannot imagine the sorrow you're going through, but I'm glad you're able to post on here and I hope talking to us helps a lil bit. I give to you big cyber-hugs: *hugshugshugs*.
First off I would like to say that you're doin a great thing, stickin' with her through this rough time.
I was just wondering, what kind of antidepressant do they have her on? The kind I am on does not have affects on libido/reaching orgasm. Women especially like it, and also it doesn't make you gain weight like some antidepressants do.
Also at the health food store in my town, they have herbal pills a woman can take to raise libido. (IDK if they work but since it's all-natural it seems like it'd be safe. Of course if she took something like that, she'd have to make sure it didn't negatively react w/ her antidepressant.)
And I agree w/ those who said it'd be good to talk w/ her. Sex is important in a relationship so it's good to talk about it. Just let her know that you love her and really miss connecting w/ her on that very intimate level.
steph, IDK if you were talking to me but I been reading this and seeing the similarities.
I really feel for you, queston, but since I'm stuck in a similar spot I don't have any advice for you. (I'm sorry.) I really admire that you want her to enjoy sex and it's a priority for you. I admire your patience with her.
I'm a girl and I think about sex constantly and am really frustrated, I imagine that this kind of thing is even harder on a guy. (No pun intended there at all.)
I think everyone here is giving you good suggestions. I have talks w/ my husband about our sex life from time to time. It's difficult to ask for what you need but also be delicate about it. But I think that this conversation w/ her will be good, even if you have to stop-and-start it over a few times like tmlmtlrl said. Me and my husband's sex life has gotten a little bit better since he started changing. So talks can do a lot.
IDK your whole story of your relationship, but if it's like my relationship then know that there is hope, she can change. It may take a LOT of talks and repetition and everything but change is possible. After 25 years, I think it's going to be real difficult to institute change. But it is possible.
What I meant was that I frustrate you and that's ok. I understand. I don't have any hard feelings towards ya. You've helped me a lot before.
Well, I do feel like I deserve better treatment. But I think in order to ask him for the better treatment I need make myself stronger too and to seek help from you guys to know what to do. Does that make sense?
I wish my husband would grow up to. I think he is, slowly. I think his progress will snowball and he'll be able to grow into his potential.View Thread