My name is Victoria I am 19 years old and i fear i suffer from a starting stage of depression. Lately ive been in a slump because its passed by boyfriend and I's 5th anniversary. Believe me we are extremely happy, but i fear we arent sexual healthy. As the years have passed I was hoping for an engagement ring.. instead i got Lingerie. Which was nice but it wasnt what i was hoping for as a 5 year anniversary present.
I feel like the relationship we were both in, we had like the same goals in regaurds to marriage and family. I want to start a family and get married. I just no longer feel like it will happen.. Ive had jealousy towards my friends who are engaged and are having a life..
I dont want to lose my best friend but at the same time i dont want to feel like im being taken for a ride.. exuse the pun. I know he means well but i just know how to handle all these emotions.. please help..View Thread
Our communications used to be terrible! id tell him something important and it'd go through one ear and out the other somedays. and in those days i swear id just want to give it all up and find someone else.
but then 8 months ago we found this stray puppy and took her to the vet to find her a good home, but we fell in love with her so we kept her. I feel that with our teamwork for winry has helped in some sense.
He listens a bit more because now he knows he cant forget. because its irresponsible. Somedays i ask him to take her out on a walk and he does it others he forgets... he still plays on the video games but not as bad as it was when we first met.
Of course I have other goals. I want to become a CNA and build on my education to become a Neonatialist.
Our sex life is "Okay". I say that because it seems to only happen when he wants it to happen. Hes completely consumed in video games. We've adopted a puppy and we've raised her since she was 1 month old. This helps us alot with communication and it gives him an insite for the future.
I have made it a point to make the "engagement" conversation be heard when we werent stressed or busy. Its not so much marrige i want him to focus on its him having a set goal with proposing. I feel like he isnt taking my feelings into consideration at times when it comes to how i feel about my values. Like with the Lingerie as, as nice as it was to remember our anniversary and make an effort to get me something for celebrate I felt like that was something id like to save for when we are married.
An engagement ring at this time doesnt seem like much to ask for. He has promise to think about it. It doesnt mean he will or he wont but i would just like to see a bigger step in our relationship. Because it is OUR relationship not anybody else's.View Thread