And I agree with this to an extent. Although I see him suffering in his own complications, I also agree I have taken a great deal of focus off myself and it shows. I thought I was doing the right thing by continuing my education and staying close for my children, but in the process I have apparently lost sight of what I really want for me. I appreciate the responses, and would continue this conversation for sure.View Thread
Thank you for your response. A lot of people have a hard time understanding why it's taking so long for the judge to send out the decision, including us. His lawyer says it's because theres so much that needs to be included in the order. I was actually a large part of most of the trial, having been called as a witness and attending most of the dates in court with him for support. Because of this, seeing what he deals with in regards to his turmoil with his children and their mother, and the fact that we spend a lot of time together I believe what he says. However, I do believe that his new found time as an almost single man suits him well. He spends a lot of time "playing", which I think is healthy to an extent, but worries me when I consider the ever fading possibility of us being a family. On the subject of finding work, the local community college which I attended has very few leads for people especially with the degree I received. It's in general studies because I originally planned on transferring and getting my bachelors. I know now that is nearly impossible. I have applied for jobs at places ranging from civil service to fast food and still nothing. The town I live in is a low income dreadful area from which I would love to move but would be risking being too far away from my kids school. That just isn't an option right now. After some consideration I do realize codependency describes me. My ex husband was a total narcissist. And as hard as it is for me to admit I think my current relationship exhibits the signs. It all makes sense, I grew up with drug and alcohol addicted parents. But that's a totally different support group....View Thread
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