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The biggest issue is that he knows it upsets you and continues to do it. He needs to get help with his issues.Marriage counseling isn't going to help. Enlisting seems to be a radical decision to get a job, but with the economy the way it is I can understand. I hope things work out for you.View Thread

Getting old is no fun. You have to start dealing with physical issues that suck the enjoyment out of your life and limit what you can do. I wasn't chosen to be an active senior, at least physically.View Thread

What I didn't know going into the relationship was that my wife had PTSD which leads to hypervigilance, self medication with alcohol and smoking. After 10 years of marrige my wife lost her job and wasn't interested in going back to work. I supported her decision to go back to school where she got a second degree in studio art and gave her a great deal of enjoyment. I helped her through two knee replacements. She has had COPD for quite a few years and now is on oxygen almost all the time. She is afraid to leave the house because of catching a respiratory infection. I do my best to take care of the household chores. I have very little me time and need to exercise more. She is fantastic in bed, multi orgasmic but we may go a year or more without making love. I have a very high sex drive so this is frustrating. Things didn't end up the way they started or what I was expecting.View Thread

I'm guessing your husband was angry with you for not being more supportive and started acting out. His behavior is difficult to explain without having more background. A mature person tries to hold up their end of the relationship; emotionally, financially, etc.View Thread

Trying to use the new tools had their ups and downs. Here's an example: You are in argument and instead of continuing to fight, you walk away. How you walk away is important. If you just walk away, the person you are walking away from will be pissed. You need to say I'm getting upset and need sometime to calm down. Another thing: There's no point arguing with someone who is going after you. They won't listen because they are upset. If you have a point to make, wait until they have calmed down and are willing to listen.View Thread


1. Dementia screening
2. That I actually saw a therapist
3. That any problems that I had were related to the relationship with my wife.
My wife mentioned cost, but I spent less on therapy than she spent on beer. I think the real reason was that she didn't like me talking about our relationship with someone else. She didn't ask me to find another therapist.
The last few appointments were sort of check ins and about a month apart. I didn't want to talk to a therapist in the first place, my objectives were met and if my wife didn't want me to see someone it was ok by me.View Thread

I now had to deal with two issues; why I wasn't in therapy and that I was senile. I found a therapist that specialized on dementia issues and relationship issues. After multiple sessions, my therapist said there was no reason for me to do any dementia screening. I still work as a lead programmer and have received excellent performance evaluations for the last two years. We spent a lot of time talking about my background and the relationship with my wife.
What I got out of it was relationship skills including defusing arguments and making sure that my wife understood that I was listening to her. My wife made me stop going to therapy. I accomplished what I wanted to and killed two of her issues. Money well spent and our relationship has greatly improved.View Thread

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