I'm almost 68 and still working. We've refinanced our house over 6 times over 28 years. We take cash out to whatever the max conforming limit is and use the money for necessary repairs and remodeling. We owe almost twice what we paid for the house. Given the lowering interest rates over the years we have a very modest house payment and a lot of equity. We try to not have any debt other than the mortgage where the interest is tax deductible. I have never considered trying to payoff the house. I've had cheap rent and built equity over a long period of time.
I will have a modest retirement income and won't be able to afford to live in the house we have. Even if the house was paid off, maintaining it would be too expensive. I have enough equity to buy a lesser house in a less expensive area for cash but maintenance is a big issue. Yard maintenance, a new roof, kitchen and bathroom remodeling are all expensive.View Thread
Taking your post at face value, he's likely bisexual. The questions I have are:
1. Will he be happy being monagamous? 2. How is the rest of your relationship?
I am heterosexual and love women's bodies. I would enjoy having multiple partners,but I am married and being monagamous is a big part of that. I haven't looked at porn in over a decade, but do check out the SI swim suit pages.View Thread
Women's underwear and stockings are a multi billion dollar industry. Women often wear them to please men, so if it is a fetish then it is shared by many men and women.
I prefer the soft feel of a woman's inner thigh. My wife has PTSD and when I touch my wife's breast or move my hand to close to her crotch she gets upset except when making love and then she enjoys my touch greatly. We were taking a nap and my hand was touching her outer thigh. She said "don't move your hand", which I heard as move your hand. She went on to say "it feels electric and wonderful". I moved my hand to her inner thigh and she sighed deeply and went back to sleep. My wife often asks me to rub her back. After a while she removes her night shirt. She says the rubbing through the fabric is irritating. Many women today prefer not to wear panty hose and stockings because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Like everything else in a marriage it involves compromise. View Thread
My definition of having sex is different than my definition of making love. To me making love is where each partner gets a lot of satisfaction about pleasing their partner. He should be focusing on making you feel good rather than his sexual satisfaction. There must be something you can do that makes him feel good other than involving another person or feeding his fantasies. If he is interested in pleasing himself he can watch whatever porn that turns him on and masturbate.
We always don't get what we want. I have a very high sex drive and a wife who is fantastic in bed. I can't even fantacize better sex. Unfortunately my wife has PTSD and lovemaking can be months or years apart. We have a a very loving relationship.View Thread
My mother was the baby of a large family and use to being spoiled. She was used to being the center of attention. I knew this and wasn't damaged by it. I just accepted her for who she was. One day she showed up at our house to complain that she wasn't getting enough attention from us. My wife told her to go home and she didn't see her grandson for a few years. She learned her lesson. I completely agreed with my wife's action.View Thread
I regret making the decision based what happened in the future. If a person has emotional problems loving them won't make it right. Sure I felt pressured. It was an ultimatum.
My girlfriend was the perfect date. We had a lot of fun and were honest with each other. Unfortunately she had health issues and was on permanent disablility. Not a person to have the house and kids with. My wife to be was a peer at work and much healthier.
For me to have feelings for someone, I need to know them for a while. My wife to be moved in with me for a year before we were married.
I have always been very affectionate, but not much on the emotional side. If I found myself dating again, I would be content with mutiple casual relationships as long as they were based on honesty and muutal self respect.View Thread
I'm someone who never received much attention from women and didn't date very much except for a few years prior to getting married. The attraction to getting attention from women must be very strong. I would consider it myself except I would be worried about a stalker and don't want to pretend to be someone I'm not. That is also an attraction to some people. I've been married for almost 35 years and I have no friends. The only interaction with people other than with my wife is at work. I spend fair amount of time posting on bulletin boards related to my hobbies and interests. There's a connection even if it isn't face to face.
Many women consider these emails like cheating. Unless it goes past emails, it could be viewed as entertainment.
The biggest issue is that he knows it upsets you and continues to do it. He needs to get help with his issues.Marriage counseling isn't going to help. Enlisting seems to be a radical decision to get a job, but with the economy the way it is I can understand. I hope things work out for you.View Thread