I completely understand your frustration. My ex-husband and I married young and were expecting a baby shortly after we got married. My ex-husband was the fourth of six children and had very close ties to his mother. This became a toxic element in our relationship throughout the entire duration. He refused to cut ties and ultimately it was one of the reasons we divorced. It is not surprising that every time the topic comes up he gets upset. He needs to understand that although his mother is important, priorities change as you get older and begin a family of your own. He needs to be the one who has any discussions with his family members about backing down or cutting the cord. Living within a close proximity does not help things either. The next time that you have to sit down and have this conversation with your husband, approach the subject gently and reassure him that it is not that you do not care about his family, but that you both are trying to have a family of your own. It is important to emphasize that your new family needs attention too and that you have family on your own side that would like to have a relationship with him as well. Family is not one sided. It will be a difficult conversation I am sure, but coming up with ground rules as far as times that you will be leaving as stated by others on this post will help get the ball rolling.View Thread
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