I've suffered from ED for essentially all of my adult life. It works, just not always...and not always very well. Recently, it has gotten worse. I've tried a lot of ways to make it better -- Viagra, therapy, etc. -- without any real success. I started taking Cialis 5mg for daily use. It is like a miracle! My performance is better than it ever has been, and my performance anxiety is gone.
The problem is, my wife absolutely hates the fact that I am taking medicine to address the problem. She distrusts conventional medicine to begin with, and thinks there are other, better ways to deal with the problem -- more therapy, diet changes, etc. She also thinks it means I need a chemical to make me attracted to her. I've tried to explain that's not true, and isn't how the medicine works.
Bottom line, instead of celebrating the fact that we've found something that really works -- not everyone does -- we're fighting about whether to take advantage of this good fortune or not.
What can I say to her to help her see that this is a blessing, not a cures?View Thread
Thanks to you and to tlkittycat1968 for your responses. I think the idea of having her talk to my doctor is a reasonable one, although I'm not sure she'll go for it. She is convinced MDs are too ready to prescribe a pill to deal with problems that could be solved without chemicals -- ED, depression, high blood pressure, etc. It is worth asking, though.
I can't take it and not tell her. It just wouldn't work.
And I'm with you. I really don't understand why we're fighting about this. She keeps talking about how I'm taking risks with all of the side effects (known and unknown, common and uncommon) when I could probably deal with this other, less risky ways. I've told her that her fears about the side effects are overblown, but that's not persuading her. The doctor visit may be my only hope.
Thanks again for your input. Any other thoughts out there?View Thread
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