Celt I'm sorry but you've got to be kidding. Dump that loser and the sooner the better. He's never going to give up his 'mommy' for you. You don't even have a good sex life. You're young enough to find someone who is an adult and will treat you right.
No you are not wrong imo. I remember as a child our uncles telling me and my female cousins that we should always be able to take care of ourselves because you never know what can happen. You are trying to protect yourself and your children. Their well-being is the most important thing in this situation.
I hope everything works out in the best possible way for you.
Shyone I'm no expert but I'm very experienced. Any man who cares about you will want to know how to help you climax. Most men I know are turned on by watching a woman pleasure herself. The easiest thing for you to do would be to rub your clitoris while having intercourse with your boyfriend or husband (if you're married). The first time you do that will be the scariest for you. There is nothing wrong about it.
Any kind of good relationship needs communication. I love it when a man asks me what I like and need to climax. I also love it when a man tells me what he likes too.
I have a feeling that you are pretty young. With me as I got older it got easier for me to tell or demonstrate what I like. I feel that I am responsible for my own orgasm. I don't expect my partner to 'make' me climax. It sure is nice to have a helping hand or tongue. Seventy to eighty percent of women can't climax by penetration alone. We need clitoral stimulation too. Additionally it takes most women 20 to 30 minutes of foreplay and clitoral stimulation to orgasm if not longer. Don't worry about taking too long. You will only stress yourself out.
The best advice I can give you is to explore your own body and discover what turns you on and gets you to climax.
Good luck and I wish you a lifetime of fabulous orgasms.