In our marriage, we have done much forgiving (it's the forgetting part we're struggling with). We love each other and hope to stay together. We've been married 16 years and have two teenagers. Just to keep this post on the short side, simply put, I fear going to marriage counseling. I fear dredging up the past when we both could just sit at home and write the same book, close it, and say, "okay, that's what happened, what do we do now?" Talking about every issue we've had in the past is *guaranteed* to start major arguments, create a difficult home life, and, create, in me (and probably him) a state of constant, daily anxiety. My biggest fear is that the marriage won't survive the turmoil of the process. Is it worth all of that when we could just agree to disagree, forgive, and continue to work on our communication style and find ways to rebuild trust and love? Any advice is so appreciated.View Thread
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