I have been married 5 years. Shortly after getting married we got pregnant. We weren't entirely read for it as my wife's doctor told her she had been on the pill so long it would take around 6mo-1yr to get pregnant. My wife had post pardum depression bad for about 1 yr following the birth of our son. From that time on, it has been ailment after ailment from teeth to back pain. Her latest is back pain, which i do believe is real. Her ailments keep her in bed and i feel like i am a single father. We have sex maybe 1-2 times a year.
I took an oath "in good times and in bad." But there have been few good times. I think about all the folks that have it worse than me, but honestly I think having your spouse die would be easier because at least you'd be able to move on with your life eventually. I however am stuck in the middle with a wife I no longer feel love for only a sense of duty. I think about all the impoverished, but then I think how even they are stronger than my wife and are able to have several children even despite their hard lives. My wife doesn't seem to have a tough bone in her body, both emotionally and physically speaking.
We have gone thru marriage counseling, and it did help some. But her sadness towards life is starting to wear on me. I don't want to be a sad person. I want to be happy and I feel I have alot to be happy for. What should I do? Just continue my life this way and hope something changes for the better? Or leave and break my son's heart but have the possibility of finding love again in my lifetime. There is no good option for me as I see it. I can see why people become alcoholics.View Thread