In my humble opinion, yes YOU can. That will solely be up to you.
As far as your relationship recovering... That will be up to both of you.
As a fellow 'survivor' of infidelity, (25 years hence) I have some insights that might be useful to your recovery or possibly your eventual separation.
I see very many coincidences in the affairs perpetrated on both of us and the way you responded (according to your writing) was very much the way I responded.
I see the last post was 3 months ago so I'm not going to go into any great detail here in case this is already an expired thread. If I see a response or an inquiry then I'll respond with more detailed information.
Hutch, you've hit upon the magic thing that most men want and don't really know how to articulate and almost every woman I know doesn't understand.
"I want to feel that she wants me. Feeling desired / wanted is a real turn on for men."
"I don't want my wife to have sex with me because she has to I want her to have sex with me because she wants me and wants to get off. The idea of a woman wanting me to make her orgasm turns me on like nothing else."
Now where you may need a little help yourself is the "border line rape" feeling. Lots of women are brought up NOT to initiate and enjoy the whole concept of 'being taken'.
In my own experience a little of both works the best.
Back to your first item... If more women understood that concept, that men want to feel desired and appreciated for their willingness to do whatever is necessary to please their lover. There would be a whole lot less cheating and divorcing going on in this country.View Thread