My husband has filed for divorce after our 16 year relationship. I had an affair, got caught and lied about it. This makes me a horrible person I've been told and feeling very isolated. This man along with our teenage daughter have been my life and honestly I'm having a hard time coping. Here is my dilemma...My husband is a highly functioning alcoholic. It seems to have no ill effect on any aspect of his life except for me. I do believe he may have some health issues related to it as well as he has severe tremors of his hands. He's not honest with doctors about his drinking history because he would have been referred for help long ago. He is not violent physically, but is not always nice verbally. We have not sought legal representation since money is tight. We agreed he would keep the family home, and our daughter will stay with him for school reasons, making him the custodial parent. I moved out several months ago and don't live in her school district. We are members of the Armed Services, so admitting to abuse of alcohol has the ability to influence your career.
What do I do? How can I leave her with him, granted he does provide and care for her. I'm not there to run interference or be his crutch anymore. i know abuse of alcohol is frowned upon for custody. I've never talked to anyone about this and I'm sure no one suspects him to be a drinker,View Thread
Thanks for the advice. Much to work on but we are starting to have an open dialogue. Yes our daughter is my first priority. I see her almost every weekend and Skype nightly. The legal office does not deal with civil matters so I'm on my own. We have agreed for the most part and I do still love this man but I'm afraid the damage is done.View Thread
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