
Reply: a man
I'm sorry, but I think you'll have to be a bit more specific if you want us to help you ... ...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
I'm sorry, but I think you'll have to be a bit more specific if you want us to help you ...
You might also find it useful to post your question on the heart health exchange. You'll find it here:
http://exchanges.webmd.com/heart-disease-exchangeView Thread
Posted byFCL
You might also find it useful to post your question on the heart health exchange. You'll find it here:
http://exchanges.webmd.com/heart-disease-exchangeView Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
3 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:a man I'm sorry, but I think you'll have to be a bit more specific if you want us to help you ... ...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: nph106-reader has a question
Thank you for coming back and telling us about your situation. I have been wondering about you....
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Thank you for coming back and telling us about your situation. I have been wondering about you. I am incredibly sorry that things are going the way they are. I thought you were making so much progress ... unfortunately, it takes two to really build a new relationship together. I wonder if your husband stopped going to therapy because he started to see himself in his true colors (as you are now doing) and didn't like what he saw...?
I understand why you are still there and I think I can understand how you feel too. It must be like a sort of temporary reprieve ... You know it's going to end but not quite yet. It's very reassuring that you are clear about what you want and what you will not accept and it's really great to be able to focus on other members of your family.
Please keep us updated and remember that we're here for you...View Thread
Posted byFCL
I understand why you are still there and I think I can understand how you feel too. It must be like a sort of temporary reprieve ... You know it's going to end but not quite yet. It's very reassuring that you are clear about what you want and what you will not accept and it's really great to be able to focus on other members of your family.
Please keep us updated and remember that we're here for you...View Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
4 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:nph106-reader has a question Thank you for coming back and telling us about your situation. I have been wondering about you....
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: Dating a dirvorced man and now the ex wife wants h...
I think that the best thing he could do is what he has already done - made an appointment for...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
I think that the best thing he could do is what he has already done - made an appointment for counselling because he's going to need it given the curveball he's just been served. There isn't really very much youi can do about this. No, he wasn't happy in his marriage but sometimes you need closure and he doesn't appear to have had closure with the amount of time he seems to have continued to spend with his ex.
I think you have to let him reach his own conclusions. If he decides to go back to his ex then it's his loss. However, a good therapist will be able to make him see what he would be going back to...
Could I suggest that you also post this over on the relationship board? You'll find it at this address:
http://exchanges.webmd.com/relationships-and-coping-community
There is a qualified therapist over there who might be able to help you.View Thread
Posted byFCL
I think you have to let him reach his own conclusions. If he decides to go back to his ex then it's his loss. However, a good therapist will be able to make him see what he would be going back to...
Could I suggest that you also post this over on the relationship board? You'll find it at this address:
http://exchanges.webmd.com/relationships-and-coping-community
There is a qualified therapist over there who might be able to help you.View Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
7 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:Dating a dirvorced man and now the ex wife wants him back. I think that the best thing he could do is what he has already done - made an appointment for...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: I don't know where we stand.
Take it all at face value. Right now it doesn't really matter whether it's for you or for the...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Take it all at face value. Right now it doesn't really matter whether it's for you or for the baby - he wants to give it a try. You'll realize soon enough whether it's for you or the baby. For the time being, it's not a bad idea to have a bit of extra stability, someone to be there for you, someone who cares (whatever his motives are). You'll have time enough to make the right decisions when the time comes (if, indeed, it does).View Thread
Posted byFCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
3 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:I don't know where we stand. Take it all at face value. Right now it doesn't really matter whether it's for you or for the...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: Staying In A Sexless Relationship!!!
He clearly has a lower drive than you do.So why don't you just initiate? There's absolutely...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
He clearly has a lower drive than you do.So why don't you just initiate? There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.View Thread
Posted byFCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
262 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:Staying In A Sexless Relationship!!! He clearly has a lower drive than you do.So why don't you just initiate? There's absolutely...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: My Fiance doesn't find me sexually attractive
It sounds to me as if you've outgrown each other. People change over the years - some go in the...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
It sounds to me as if you've outgrown each other. People change over the years - some go in the same direction, others, like you, do not. Please don't go to extremes to "fix" this because it will only be temporary. You're growing apart. This isn't necessarily a bad thing.
She doesn't love you, she isn't attracted to you. As hard as it must have been to hear, she's been open and honest with you. It's time to move on with your life. It sounds like she'd be open to remaining friends. Would that be acceptable to you?View Thread
Posted byFCL
She doesn't love you, she isn't attracted to you. As hard as it must have been to hear, she's been open and honest with you. It's time to move on with your life. It sounds like she'd be open to remaining friends. Would that be acceptable to you?View Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
2 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:My Fiance doesn't find me sexually attractive It sounds to me as if you've outgrown each other. People change over the years - some go in the...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: Boyfriend question
I think you're overthinking this. It either didn't occur to him to let you know or he just...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
I think you're overthinking this. It either didn't occur to him to let you know or he just forgot. Now let this go ...View Thread
Posted byFCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
1 Reply
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:Boyfriend question I think you're overthinking this. It either didn't occur to him to let you know or he just...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: Particularly interested in women's perspective on ...
Next time she says she really needs to lose 10 pounds ask her: 1. How serious she is about it...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Next time she says she really needs to lose 10 pounds ask her:
1. How serious she is about it
and
2. What you can do to help
The important thing is to open up the conversation and get the ball rolling. THEN you can discuss the icecream issue
View Thread
Posted byFCL
1. How serious she is about it
and
2. What you can do to help
The important thing is to open up the conversation and get the ball rolling. THEN you can discuss the icecream issue
View ThreadThere's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
2 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:Particularly interested in women's perspective on this Next time she says she really needs to lose 10 pounds ask her: 1. How serious she is about it...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: In-laws a bit too helpful! Advice?
I agree and it's as simple as pointing out that your MIL has them all to herself all day and...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
I agree and it's as simple as pointing out that your MIL has them all to herself all day and you would like the same when you come home.
I think your MIL probably just doesn't realize that she's imposing - it sounds like she's a bit of a mother hen who is happiest when she has all of her chicks (you included) around her
View Thread
Posted byFCL
I think your MIL probably just doesn't realize that she's imposing - it sounds like she's a bit of a mother hen who is happiest when she has all of her chicks (you included) around her
View ThreadThere's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
2 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:In-laws a bit too helpful! Advice? I agree and it's as simple as pointing out that your MIL has them all to herself all day and...
Thanks for your Reply!

Reply: Am I over-reacting
He may be good to your children but consider how damaging it is for them to live in an...
Posted by FCL
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
He may be good to your children but consider how damaging it is for them to live in an atmosphere of tension and nearly constant arguing/bickering. This guy is treating you like a maid. He considers that all the upkeep of the house and care for the children is your responsability. You have no communication, no sex, the only thing that is holding you together is the roof over your head.
At this point, does it really matter whether he is cheating or not? He clearly has no respect for you and is simply taking advantage of you. You said yourself that this has gotten worse... How much worse are you willing to put up with? How much worse can your children handle? More importantly, what are you teaching your chidren about relationships?
Finally, you are not overreacting... unless, of course, you like being treated like a servant...View Thread
Posted byFCL
At this point, does it really matter whether he is cheating or not? He clearly has no respect for you and is simply taking advantage of you. You said yourself that this has gotten worse... How much worse are you willing to put up with? How much worse can your children handle? More importantly, what are you teaching your chidren about relationships?
Finally, you are not overreacting... unless, of course, you like being treated like a servant...View Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
4 Replies
| ReplyReply
| Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:Am I over-reacting He may be good to your children but consider how damaging it is for them to live in an...
Thanks for your Reply!


