MCK, you have so many issues in your marriage and you are so optimistic and positive about them that I wonder if you ever take off your rose-coloured glasses and realize that you are trying to force a square peg into a round hole.
Honestly, you put so much effort into your marriage and your husband would rather potter on the way he is. Your husband's problems with porn and masturbating are way to hefty to cope with on your own. Is he going to counselling about them? Does he even understand that he has a problem? Does he understand how much he is messing up YOUR life?View Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
"She complains a lot about how stressful life is, but she says there isn't anything she wants to do to escape."
That must be extremely frustrating to have to listen to. It also sounds like a classic sign of depression. What would happen if you booked her a long weekend at a spa farm and surprised her with it? Does she read? Ever had any hobbies that might have fallen by the wayside over the years?
I hadn't realized you had a foster daughter - that immediately complicates things.View Thread
Sorry, I hadn't realized you had four teens. Aren't they old enough to pack off somewhere? Lol - I'm thinking selfishly, of course, I'm just very motivated by getting peace and quiet ... . For the last few years, he's been taking one of the twins off with him and I admit that being able to spend a whole weekend/week with just one of my daughters has been wonderful - it's so seldom I get a chance for special time with one or the other.
Tell me, doesn't she have anything she'd like to do but can't because of the same limitations? Wouldn't she like to go off somewhere to something that she normally can't? Isn't there a trade-off possible? Isn't there anything she'd like to do with you but feels she can't because of family constraints? Are your teens old enough to be left on their own? Forgive me if you've already answered these questions before ...View Thread
It's a pity she sees things like that, question. My partner loves skiing. I am simply not interested. For years, I've been booking him a week's vacation in the Alps because it makes him happy, he has fun, he comes home relaxed, I get to spend a week of peace and quiet - heck it's a win-win situation if ever I saw one!View Thread