I agree with you for the most part but there is a difference between looking and staring. I'm married and I notice and look at attractive men and I know DH notices and looks and attractive women. If he's looking long enough to have eye contact with the person, that's beyond just looking.View Thread
Happily married to DH since 2003. Two kids: Paul (5) and Kylee (3).
And even saying anything about the ice cream won't work either. Hubby keeps saying he needs to lose weight but will still have a piece of pizza two hours after he's already had three. I do comment but he goes ahead and eats it.
She knows what she needs to do and until she's willing to do it, nothing you say or do will make her do it.View Thread
DH got a job where he'll be working out-of-town at night which means I'll be essentially a single parent Sunday night thru Thursday night. For those of you that do this regularly and have kids, how did your kids react to the other parent being gone? I do much of the care in the evenings anyway so that won't change.
How did you deal with your spouse being gone? For me, it'll be nice not having to worry about what he wants for dinner or what he wants to watch on tv but I know I'll miss seeing him and talking to him when I get home from work. I know he'll call me during the day when he can but it's not the same.
He worked out-of-town one night last week and I discovered I can't sleep when it's too quiet (he has a CPAP machine that he wears at night) so I stole DS' sound machine (DS was at grandma's for the night).View Thread
I've heard what might help is getting your feelings out by writing them down. Sometimes just giving a voice to your feelings helps. Once your write them down, put it away. After a few months of this while in therapy, go back and look at your ealier writings and you will probably find you've made gread progress.
It's sort of like my DS. He sees a neurologist twice a year and he sees great improvement since he sees him so infrequently while we don't really see it because we see DS every day.View Thread
I don't think anyone goes into marriage thinking they'd get divorced. While I've never been divorced, I'm pretty sure your feelings are normal.
I've heard one thing to do is to write down the positive things about your soon-to-be ex. I'm sure there are some. This is not to make you feel bad about divorcing him but to help you look for the same good qualities in someone else.
I'd wait before starting to seriously date again. Now's the time for you to figure out what you want and don't want in a relationship.View Thread