Unless you and your husband were virgins, it's possible either you or your husband had herpes before you even met. Some people never have symptoms and don't know they have it. If I'm not mistaken, there is no reliable test for men unless they actually are having an outbreak.View Thread
Compare calling your wife the B word to hammering nails in a fence. Now compare your apologies to pulling out the nails. The holes are still there and unless you do some major repair (counseling), they always will be.View Thread
He may have had herpes and gave it to you as men usually don't have symptoms and usually don't know they have it. You may have gotten it from one of your partners while you were "sowing your wild oats."
Your husband is correct in that herpes can lay dormant for years which is how someone who has been 100% faithful to their current partner can still have it if a previous partner had it.View Thread
I will admit there are times when I see an attactive guy and wonder what sex would be like with him but that thought only lasts as long as he's in my field of view, Once the attractive guy is out of my field of view, he's forgotten. Honestly, I don't fantasize about other guys. I sometimes wonder what it would have been like with someone else but again, those are fleeting thoughts and either don't last long or only pop up when DH and I have had an arguement.View Thread