Don't listen to your friend. If you and he were supposed to be in an exclusive relationship the fact that he cheated before you were engaged does not matter. I was never engaged until hubby but if any of my previous bfs would have cheated on me I would have been very hurt regardless if we were engaged or not.View Thread
I guess you could say we're estranged from my mom's side of the family. She wasn't raised with her youngest sister and several half-brothers/sisters. Her parents divorced when she was young due to infedelity on both sides. When her oldest sister was alive, she would invite us to various family functions such as birthday parties. My aunt passed away two years ago and now we're no longer invited. I'm in contact with her youngest sister and she'll mention birthday parties, get-togethers, etc with her half-nieces/nephews after the fact. We're in regular contact with two cousins and that's it.
Now my dad's side is totally opposite. We have an annual reunion the second weekend of August that has been going on for over 30 years (some of my cousins weren't even born when it started). We get together for weddings and baptisms.View Thread
I've never gone through an abortion or a miscarriage (to my knowledge) but I know someone who has. It was not a good time in her marriage when she got pregnant. She does not believe in abortion but was less than happy about being pregnant. She ended up having a miscarriage and felt guilty that she was releived when it happened. She went on to have a beautiful daughter when the time was right.
As for how you can reconcile having an abortion and liking kids that's easy, for me at least. Just because you love kids doesn't mean you should have one. You like the kids you deal with because you can give them back to their parents and don't have to worry about taking care of them 24/7.View Thread
I think having a child or not is a purely personal decision. While I don't condone abortion as a means of regular birth control, in your case you were using birth control properly and it failed you. While there are those who would condem you for what you did, I am not one of them. There are people who would say you should have given it up for adoption but feeling the way you did about being pregnant (revolted, repulsed) says that would not have been the right choice for you.
Your mental health and relationship are more important than a baby at this point. If you are not mentally healthy and do not have a good relationship, that is the worst situation to bring a baby into.
It's possible you may change your mind about kids in the future but you might not. That is your decision and no one can or should make it for you.
In addition to finding out about group therapy options, ask your doctor if they know of any support groups for women who have had abortions. I'm sure there are some out there and being able to talk to other women who have gone through the same thing might help.
You are not a tainted human being. You did not make a mistake. You made the right choice for you.View Thread
Okay, am I the only one who does not like being bombarded with Christmas songs all day? The radio station I usually listen to at work started playing Christmas songs 24/7 as of yesterday. As a result, I only listen to the station until they are done with the morning news stories and then change to a different stations. I don't mind it too much when a Christmas song is interspersed with non-Christmas songs but all Christmas songs all the time is way too much for me.View Thread
DH does play the drums so I'm thinking of a gift card from the music store. I told him if he could think of anything for his drums under $20, let me know.
I love people who collect things or have themes. I love cats and a local sports team so anything pertaining to either one would work for me. My brother likes the same local sports team but he's been a fan for a number of years and it's getting harder to find items he doesn't have that don't cost an arm and a leg. I always ask my SIL what my nephews and niece like so I'll know what to get them for birthdays & Christmas.View Thread
I hate when people ask what to get me because I can never think of anything. I have more than enough clothes and enough jewelry. My parents were great while we were growing up and bought us pretty much whatever we wanted for Christmas, within reason of course.
I think I'm gonna ask DH to get me a big box of flavored teas. I love drinking tea during the winter and like variety.View Thread