My husband and I have been married almost 13 yrs. We have a 5 and 3 yr old. I've been on Zoloft for about 2 yrs and been back on the pill for about 4 months. Our sex life has never been great, neither of us have ever been with anyone else.
Lately, I have had no desire for sex. It irritates me when he touches by breasts. I NEVER initiate sex. Over the years, he has pushed me away when I've tried, so I've just stopped. He's never been able to "last" more then a few minutes after intercourse begins, so I've only had a handful of orgasms. He usually cums within 3-5 thrusts.
He has expressed interest in different positions etc, but that makes him last less long. It's to the point that its not fun for me, its not fun for him. He likes to tell me that I'm boring and don't want to try anything new, but its just too much work with no pay off.
To top it off, my nipples are crazy sensitive. I don't even like them being touched. He, of course, is a "boob man".
He also has no sense boundaries. The last thing I want is my 5 yr old asking me "why daddy is touching mommies boobies". I don't know what to do anymore. There are so many issues we need to discuss. The couple times I've tried bringing them up, he gets upset and stops talking to me.
He does try. We do have foreplay. He is very embarrassed about ejaculating so quickly. To be fair, we have talked about it in the past, but he refuses to see a dr. He doesn't want to think that he has the problem.
Thank you for the advice. I might pick up some numbing cream or something, and I will talk to the dr.
Also I probably didn't handle the conversation very well, but I was upset.View Thread
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