Yes, LOL, I meant noticing. As in being attracted to in a serious way, etc.
I guess your answer 1b kind of baffles me. If you love someone in a romantic way, to me, that's a BIG piece of the equation as far as attraction goes.
Personally, when I got married I weighed 95 lbs. I have gained quite a bit of weight and given birth 4 times. I am not huge but definitely out of my comfort zone. My husband has NEVER complained and our sex life has NEVER suffered for it. FWIW, my husband has gained about 60 pounds since we got married as well (he was super, super skinny also). That has not and does not bother me one bit.
So yes. I do think that loving someone romantically affects how you feel about a weight gain, or if it bothers you at all.View Thread
I don't know HOW you could come out and ask him if he can tell if you're repulsed by sex with him. I mean, how does one say that? And how do you feel that way about someone you love to begin with?
Growly, grumpy, fat. THOSE are the words you choose to describe your spouse? Then you say he's sweet and beautiful, and you get along, and he's funny, and you like to do things to gether? That is a big contradiction.
I have to wonder if you have started noticing other men, too, like darlyn said. It seems that your allegiance is not with your husband, and I am basing that on the way you've chosen to describe him here.View Thread
I think it's quite possible that your attitude toward your relationship and the fact that appear grossed out by your husband is destroying what sex life the two of you DO have. You think because you don't come right out and tell him he's "yucky" that he doesn't notice how you feel? That's not likely.
I have a hard time believing, too, that a little pudge can make your feelings dwindle to "bland affection". I am guessing there is more to this story.View Thread
Queston, I don't have any advice, but I like what FCL said.
I know you feel like you're in a one-sided relationship, and I am sure that is more frustrating than you could possibly explain to those of us who have not been there. Just wanted to offer support.View Thread
Just being completely honest with you--you sound very whiny and nagging. I don't know if this is how you communicate with your wife but from your post it appears you believe everything wrong in your marriage is her fault.
Sex is a major player in marriage, but it isn't everything. And to put it bluntly, I don't know any man or woman alive who feels an intimate connection with their spouse in the absence of a healthy emotional relationship. For me, personally, I would have a hard time having sex with my husband if we were fighting all the time. Sex is a further expression of love within a marriage. It seems like you and your wife have a serious lack of emotional intimacy and respect for each other.
You do need counseling, as a couple. You come across as very angry and bitter. As I said before, I don't know how you communicate with your wife but telling her she's lazy and has wasted the majority of your marriage is NOT the way to improve your relationship.View Thread
Way to go!! That's awesome, everything you've been doing.
I know that the people are in prison for a reason but since they're there, might as well keep up the morale, you know some of those guys don't have anybody who care for them, and I'm sure having something productive to do gives them a boost.View Thread