The only suggestion I have is that you could have said, can we watch my movie first and then I promise we can watch whatever you like...Other than that, if you're always doing what she wants to do and you have to be the motivator in the relationship it sounds like she needs to learn to compromise. Compromise works best when you're both open to it.
It sounds like you're pretty resentful. How do you feel about your communication skills? Your wife's?
It may be just as simple as the two of you sitting down and calmly discussing your expectations of housework, quality time, sex....Never assume that your spouse knows what you are thinking or is on the same page as you. You never know until you talk about it. View Thread
Wow, you handled that so very well. I like to think I'd be the same way. My mom is the kind who would have called me a slut and thrown something at me. What's done is done, no need to argue or make her feel bad, it sounds like she's beating herself up enough.
So, congrats! And I hope your daughter has a healthy pregnancy and baby. View Thread
Personally, I do not think it is "nomal" for you to want to watch your wife with other men. That's JMHO. And it does NOT make her boring if she doesn't want to do that.
You should focus more on the sex life within your marriage (or lack thereof) rather than trying to push her to be with other men. Stop focusing on the fantasy and work on your reality. I think it's highly possible that she may feel sexually inadequate or awkward given the fact that instead of trying to get her to have sex with you, you try to get her to have sex with others.
That's not going to fix the problems that the two of you have together.View Thread
If I worked part time, *maybe* 20 hours a week I'd be darned if my kids would be in daycare full time. Just saying.
If she's sleeping in on weekends and the kids aren't there all day when she IS home what's she complaining about? And she wants you to leave earlier than you need to just to get the kids out of her hair for that extra hour??
It sounds like she's trying to shirk her responsibilities as a parent and doesn't want to be bothered with the kids. Sorry. I don't think you're overreacting or being too sensitive, my husband wouldn't be very happy if I acted like that.View Thread
Well, since we have 4 kids and no babysitter we won't really do much. I'll dress the kids up in cute red outfits and we'll probably all go out to eat right after school. DH and I might have a dinner alone next Friday night instead. I'm not a fan of going out on Valentine's Day evening for dinner because you can't get in ANYWHERE around here! We're in like an area hotspot, if you will, for restaurants, and it's so crowded.
I'm getting DH a couple John Deere shirts and some cologne he asked for. We always get the kids something small, too, so they don't feel left out.
I'm not sure what he got me exactly but I did see a purchase from Kay Jeweler's on our account and he told me to pretend I didn't see it and to act surprised. LOL
It's become increasingly important to me to not make Valentine's Day such a huge focus of romance but to make sure we appreciate each other 365 days a year. I've told DH I'd much rather have that instead of him focusing on that one day to do something nice/romantic for me. We still do little things for each other to celebrate but it's not as important to make a huge deal out of it as it used to be, for us.View Thread
I have to say I agree with the fact that you haven't really forgiven him. And believe me--I'm not judging you for that! He's put you through a lot. If you can't forgive him and mend the relationship, I think everyone can understand that.
Forgiveness is more than just saying that you forgive someone. It's an action as well and it is hard. as. heck. to truly forgive when you've been wronged time and time again.
By your actions, it appears to all us outsiders that you are flipping him a virtual bird. You are saying that he did what he wanted, ran around and cheated on you, and this is YOUR time. Hey. I get it. We all do.
The thing is, it won't work like that if you intend on remaining in a relationship with him, being engaged and eventually marrying this guy.
I just think it comes across like you are really struggling with forgiving him and being in a loving, committed relationship with him (again, understandably).
You have a lot of things to work out, and I feel like you're missing the big picture here.View Thread