I hope that you didn't take my post as saying why did he marry YOU, as if you had nothing to offer, but rather as why did he even get married in the first place and promise something he didn't intend upon fulfilling?
I totally didn't mean it that way, I hope you understood what I meant by that.
But yeah...I personally fail to see how someone could be fulfilled sexually by masturbating to porn and occasionally having sex. It must be all about the end result to him. I just don't understand your husband at all. I'm not sure anybody here does.View Thread
MCK, your husband's behavior makes me think that he's just this guy who likes to *ahem* "unload" every now and again, but who doesn't really desire the intimacy of a marriage or close relationship. I am trying to figure out why he married you in the first place, if he didn't desire to create a happy marriage with you. It seems that he's pretty content to be alone and do his own thing and you are left to spend your life wondering how YOU can change HIM.
Quite simply, you can't.
To add to FCL's questions--
Do YOU realize how much he is messing up YOUR life??View Thread
MCK, it seems to me that you are not just craving the sex but the intimacy that comes with the sex. Am I right? You see it not just as doing it for the sake of doing it, but as a way to connect with your husband intimately as well as fulfill your (and his) physical needs. And porn won't do all that for you, and you realize it.
I don't know why he feels compelled to turn to porn instead of the wife that loves him. I have no answers. I do hope you find a solution soon.View Thread
I think when you've been with someone for a long time (my husband and I have been married almost 15 years) sex has a different meaning. It's a way to connect and be "one" emotionally, in addition to being fun and keeping the spark alive. When we were first married I'm not sure what sex meant to us, except that we were both very young and very...um....ready for it. LOL And on the flip side, I'd say sex is MORE important to me now because of us having 4 kids, we need intimacy to keep connected amidst all the chaos. View Thread