I'm so sorry about the loss of your daughter. That's the most devastating thing anyone can go through, and I completely agree with alaska_mommy. You can't expect to be through your grief and back to normal, especially this soon. You've been through a terrible, heartbreaking loss and it's no wonder you don't feel like doing anything.
It does sound like your girlfriend is completely understanding and supportive, so I would not worry so much about how it's affecting your relationship right now -- you just need to do what's necessary to help you deal with your loss.
Many towns have support groups for parents who have lost children. If there's one near you, that could be invaluable to you. Also, as mentioned, counseling would be very helpful. And, if you aren't on an anti-depressant, it's worth talking to your doctor about. You don't have to take it forever, but it may help you feel enough better to start getting interested in life again, at least somewhat.
My best wishes to you. I hope that you can get some help to make you feel better. I think when that happens, your relationship will improve, too.View Thread
Nagging, not to hijack FIYE's thread, but I was horrified to read about you finding your grandfather. It would have been traumatic at any age, but especially when you were so young. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and live with the memory of it.View Thread
The "you're so brave stuff" isn't about what he did -- as Nagging and I both said, it's about posting that he did it. The reason it was brave is that he knew he would get attacked for it, but he was willing to set himself up for a beating to show Alaska_mommy how easy it can be to go from online flirting to physical cheating.View Thread
I'm glad Steve's father is doing better, but Steve must be exhausted from all the traveling and everything else going on.
It sounds like good news/bad news regarding his ex. She seems closer to the end, but it's good tat she's letting you and Steve keep the kids full-time. And it's good that you had the foresight to head off any question of Cori spending the night with her. You're absolutely right -- that would haunt her forever.
It really sucks that you ended up spending your precious vacation time being so sick! I've had that happen once or twice before and it's so frustrating. I'm glad you're feeling better, though.
I've been wondering how everything has been going for you recently. Thank you for catching us up.View Thread
My mom used tapping when she started having panic attacks while driving. It helped her quite a bit and she was able to start driving again until she had a heart arrhythmia a couple of years ago, and just couldn't get over the fear that it might happen when she was driving.
She has also used Rescue Remedy, and I know other people who use it for anxiety, too. (I -- and several people I know -- also give it to my dogs during thunderstorms and it really does help calm them.) Mom found that Rescue Remedy is much cheaper from their web site than buying locally at health food stores.View Thread
I didn't mean you should sue your employer -- I just thought they should replace your clothes.
Can you call your psychiatrist and try to see him sooner? I'm not sure when you saw him last, but even if it was just two weeks ago, a lot has happened since then. Please call him and explain what's going on.
Your poor sister! I hope she won't give them another penny, under any circumstances. And, even if you hadn't raised yourselves, the money spent raising a child isn't some sort of loan to be repaid when the child grows up. It's part of the responsibility of having kids.
I can understand why you feel like everything is getting worse -- there's been an awful lot of bad stuff all at once. Maybe it's like cleaning out a closet, though -- you make a huge mess in the process, but when you're finished, you have a nice clean closet where you can find everything you need. Maybe this is just the messy part of getting to your new, better life.View Thread
Just want to add -- if Alaska_mommy were to come here and say she knows that talking about sex to teenage boys is wrong but she's going to keep doing it anyway, that's a whole different story.View Thread